Insightful Inspirations

As promised, there were a few topics requested that I add for the Oracle deck. So this is the last one. Completion.

We have all heard the saying “every end is a new beginning”. But what does that mean exactly? There are some things in life you can’t have until you have a free hand, which means you have to let go of something else. Things like relationships, jobs, and home, typically (for most of us) runs in ones and twos. So you can’t have the next house until you sell the old house, or you can’t have the next relationship until you end the current one.

Seagull taken by Freeman Mester

We often resist change because we are so wrapped up in the loss of letting something go and we don’t yet know what it will be replaced with. We fear it will never be this good again. We are afraid of the possibility that this is as good as it gets and it can only go down from here. When we allow ourselves to dream of the future and trust miracles are coming, we open ourselves up to the gifts of the universe. When we fear we close ourselves off and keep ourselves trapped in a cycle of loss.

It is like a bird flying for the first time. The nest is cozy and safe, but letting go of the nest is important for the bird’s survival and eventually, they just take off and fly.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

What phase is coming to a close for you right now? Are you letting it end, or are you clinging to like a lead anchor? What can you do to support yourself in letting go of that phase and coming into the new phase? What are your fears behind this end? What are your hopes and dreams? Let yourself imagine and expect the best. You are ready for clarity and new adventures.

I am still coming up against myself trying not to try. Relaxing into your life and allowing it. It is easier said than done and sometimes I find myself asking “how will I keep going if I don’t have desire to do so”? Many of my clients over the least month have been getting this message as well… to just relax into it and release the effort.  As we “try” we limit the potential of our lives. We limit it to only what we believe and expect is possible. If we open ourselves up to the possibilities, amazing things can happen. I understand this, but never the less, still encounter this issue time and again. My evolution process brings me to that saying, the more I know, the more I know I don’t know.

I was watching a Himalayan Yogi on YouTube discuss the issue of just the act of desiring enlightenment, still keeps you from it because your ego is attached to the desire.  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Rrw7bE_a4NY

The thing is, as we follow our spiritual practices, isn’t that effort as well? I struggle with how much to push myself into my own studies of these things. I don’t want to stop, but I also only want to do it when it is effortless and fun. I no longer seek to understand things the way I use to. I allow myself to gently go where I feel guided to go, and change course when it feels right too, even if I have learned it “all”. This has helped me relax into this space further, but I can still feel the tug of the world on my “expertise”. Clients and potential clients wanting to know where I have studied, what I have done, etc. Some how this information make me more qualified. But reading, learning, studying doesn’t help me find the true meaning of these things. It is only when I relax into it that it comes to me.

Insightful Inspiration of the Week

Explore this concept for yourself a bit futher. I have talked about this in the past, but this is something that is really hard to know how to do, because you just have to experience it. In order to experience it you have to allow it to come in. But how do you do that without effort? So this isn’t a “to do” or a contiplation this week as much as it is to just spend sometime with yourself on this topic. What does it mean to you to try? What if you didn’t try? What would happen? Probably not what you think. See if you can just be still with yourself once a day and relax into who you are. Even if it is just for five minutes.

As always, I would love to hear what you think. You can post your thoughts on my facebook page if you would like. Insightful Inspirations by Leanne is the name of the page.  Let’s learn from each other.

One of the biggest blocks to our happiness is comparing ourselves to others, or worse yet, comparing our children to others. When we compare ourselves to others we are expecting ourselves to have the same experience as someone else… which is impossible! No one has had the same experiences, with the same personality, the same way, ever. So why do we try and do this. 

Comparing ourselves to others generally makes us unhappy. It creates a sense of separateness from other people that is competitive and restrictive. 

For example, lets say you are comparing your level of fitness to someone else down the street. You either wish you were as fit as them or maybe you are judging them for not being as fit as you. Either way, you have now created a gap between you and that other person that doesn’t allow you to connect. Connecting to others is what heals us, makes us grateful for our lives and teaches us about diversity. Why would be want to block that off?

This is just one example, there are so many ways we compare ourselves to others. Sometimes it is to make us feel okay. “Well she drinks like a fish, so I am not even that bad.” This may not create a gap with connection in the same way, but it creates a block. It connects us to a part of ourselves that we are afraid to let go of and we are trying to justify. For example, maybe you want more time with your husband or wife but you see you get more time than other people do with your spouse, so you shouldn’t complain. This is a block to asking for what you need, which in turn, does create a block. 

This nature to compare ourselves to each other also can lead to violence, distrust, and fear of being judged. 

So, take a moment and notice where you might be comparing yourself to someone else. Maybe it is something simple or your whole life, but either way, notice what it is doing to your sense of center and self. See if you can just be okay with where you are and where they are, embracing the difference. 

Wishing you a compassionate week.