Insightful Inspirations

What do you need? Have you ever really asked yourself that? Not what do you WANT, but what do you NEED?

This can be a very profound exercise. If you sit down and write down what you need to survive, your goals might shift, your fears might change, you might be able to live a life that is free.

Think about this… not just food and water. But could you survive without your house? You car? How about love? Connections with friends and family? How about your accomplishments? What if you never “accomplished” another thing? How would you feel?

You might start to notice that what you fear of loosing (i.e. your house, your spouse, your life…) All is really a deeper fear of loosing something more.

For example, lets drill down on something as an example. Let’s say you are afraid of loosing your job. (normal fear in a day like today) Why are you really afraid of loosing your job. Drill down… Are you afraid of loosing your house? What would happen when you lost your house or your material things? What would happen if you lost those things? Maybe you are afraid your family will loose security. So the real issue is you are afraid to loose your job because you are afraid to loose your security. Take that a step further and ask yourself, does your job really make you safe? Not if you are afraid of loosing it.

So just take a moment and think about what you really need. Ask yourself the question twice. Do I REALLY NEED this or do I just want it? It is okay to just want something, but when you take the NEED part out, it gives it more freedom. More room to grow, rather than having you hold on to it so tight you won’t let it do anything. Freedom comes when we are no longer afraid of loosing those things that we THINK we need and realize that we always have what we need and always will. Then look at all the great stuff we WANT to have, that we do have! This is a place of gratitude, but also a place of letting go.

What do you think? Share some of your needs?

I need love. I know that is the one thing I can not live without. Love from friends, family and life.

I send that love out to all of you and hope you will comment.

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Have you ever noticed how much time you spend trying to convince someone of something you believe in?  For example, your political views or perhaps you describe in detail how you came to a big decision. Maybe you are trying to explain to someone how you are doing “well” or spend time describing how something came about for the “better”. Maybe you are just telling someone how they could lead a better life by allowing themselves to shine from underneath their self consciousness. 
It is as if we are trying to convince someone else of what we think, so they can turn around and confirm it for us. If they can’t confirm it for us, we continue to struggle to explain, convince, describe, etc. in order to get them to see our way. Why can’t we just be confident enough in ourselves not to have to explain our actions or describe our decision making process?

This goes beyond just trying to get someone to believe in what you do. Have you ever gone around telling everyone how “fine” you are despite something major happening to you? For example, if you lost your job and you tell everyone around you it is for the best, it will work out in the end, or you are excited for the new opportunities. Maybe you had a miscarriage and you tell people you can try again, or it wasn’t meant to be. It is as if we are talking to ourselves too. Trying to convince ourselves that what we are saying IS what we believe or better yet, that if we tell the person in front of us, they will mirror back what we need (that they agree we will be better off, etc.) and that will in turn make us feel better. 

My inspiration for you this week is to notice where you are telling others things, you too, need to hear. Then try and tell yourself them more often. If you find yourself telling someone else who lost their job it is for the better, also notice where you might need that same reality (even if you still have a job and are just nervous you will loose it). If you find yourself telling someone to be themselves and not worry about what other people think… tell yourself that too. Our world is a reflection of ourselves and if we take notice, we can create a very healing experience that brings us back to being who we were meant to be.
Have fun seeing your reflection!