Insightful Inspirations

Gurus, teachers, yogi, monk, etc. these are all the titles of people you might go to for some spiritual help. Someone to show you the path to enlightenment. This week I was reminded to remember the true helpers in our life often don’t come from the likely sources. They aren’t always the ones you want to say “thank you” to and aren’t always obvious gifts.You might find more enlightenment in facing a chain reaction of events brought into your life through an encounter with a person, than from a spiritual master.

For example, lets say you get a job that you need VERY badly. In this job you are unhappy, but it pays the bills. Part of the reason you are unhappy is because you have a boss who is just awful to you. Finally one day, this boss is so awful to you that you snap and tell them off, causing you to loose your job. Then you face finding a new one, financial struggles and anything else that comes along from the chain reaction of events.  In the end you find yourself a job you love, pays better and supports who you are. You gained wisdom about your strength through the struggles to get there. Lessons yu couldn’t learn any other way.  

Can you thank that boss for being the catalyst for your growth? Can you see the wisdom in their involvement in your life?

This isn’t a sugar coated avoidance technique to make every one and everything seem good in your life. This is about having awareness of the wisdom that is constantly around you working with you and for you. This is about noticing the gifts rather than denying them.

Insightful Inspiration of week

Become aware of your catalysts. Who is your life has caused a chain reaction of events that you find unpleasant? Who do you have trouble with because of all the struggle they bring? What are they a catalyst for? Maybe they are just showing you how you don’t want to be. Maybe they are making you reevaluate your life rather than just going through the motions. See if you can find the gift in the chain reaction they have set off for you. Decide if you want to learn your lessons or keep the chain going until you do. You want the lesson or you wouldn’t be there with it. Send them gratitude, forgiveness and love and then do the same for yourself.

I just got back from a visit with my father. Every time I spend time with my parents it gives me new insights on myself. It reminds me what subconscious tapes are playing in there that I have yet to uncover. My mother and my father divorced when I was very young and quite frankly are the most opposite people you would ever meet. Who am I most like? If you ask me I am exactly like both of them while not being like them at all. How is that for a paradox. I have taken parts of what they believe and made it my own. I have also gone in the opposite direction of some of their beliefs (to their dismay), but still by their influence.

The mention of a person’s parents is bound to evoke an emotional response. Be it good or bad, we feel something about these people responsible for bringing us into the world. But the bottom line is, the way they view the world has a lot to do with how we view the world. People either try to be similar to their parents or not make the same mistakes, but either way you can’t deny the power of your parents on your energy.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

For good or for bad spend sometime reflecting on what your parents have given you. What belief systems did they influence you with such as ideas about money, relationships, the opposite sex, etc. ? Did you take on what they believed or did you go the opposite direction? It was still their influence even if you went against what they think. See what you can honor from them as part of you. See what you can and can’t make peace with. Keep in mind the concept that actions speak louder than words. What your parents did and didn’t do, matters more than what they told you. Explore this topic and what it means for your personal awareness and growth.  As always I encourage you to share.

Send gratitude to those people who gave you life. Honoring them honors you and the universal power of creation.

Thank you mom and dad.

If you are into any metaphysical stuff, you will often hear about the ego. Most of the time the ego is pointed out as something to let go of, something NOT to live your life through. But I personally think that is impossible for most of us. It isn’t the point for us yet.

I read this book called “The Rascal’s Guide to Enlightenment” by Mat-zo the unleavened one. You can tell by the title and author’s name it is a funny one. Anyway in his book he has a “I love my Ego Rebuild Kit”. It says something along the lines of if you have ruined your ego through too much enlightenment work, use this rebuilding kit to fix it up. It is a pretty funny book. I recommend it to anyone.

My point is that everything is about balance. As I watch children grow, I see their ego forming. It is part of development. Without it, we would miss an important part of our lessons in life. As always it is just about balance. We don’t want to run the world with our egos out of whack because then we forget that we aren’t the center of the universe and right about everything.

Sonia Choquette, one of my favorite authors and psychics said this about the ego in an interview. “Every human being has had some experience of guidance. That is not our challenge. Our challenge is: Will our ego humble enough to acknowledge that there is more than the ego running the world and the experience of the human journey through life?”

I don’t think it is about blowing the ego away. But it is about using our consciousness to bring it all into balance. I believe when we aren’t in a body, our ego goes away, so just like our bodies, we have a limited time to experiment with it.

Insightful Inspiration of the Week

This week, check in with your ego. What state is it in? Is it bruised, defensive, puffed up? How much say does it have in your life? Is it balanced with everything else you do? Can you tell the difference between your ego and your higher self? Are you able to have humility and see things differently than before?

As always, you are welcome to share your thoughts.

Wikipedia describes Tickle Torture as the use of tickling to abuse or dominate someone. The victim laughs although the experience is unpleasant because the laughter is an innate reflex rather than social conditioning. I thought this was a great idea to blog about. The concept of having a pleasure response (here it is laughing) as a reflex. What other responses are just reflexes?

It is different for everyone, but I do think we have automatic responses to certain stimulus, depending on our complex make up of personality, genetics, background, gender, etc. Emotions can and do go beyond just social conditioning. Can we train ourselves to remove the reflex and have more intentional reactions. Of course we can, but first we have to recognize our reflex first. The automatic responses we have to things feel necessary and we will defend them at every chance. But if we start to realize we aren’t responding to the outside world as much as we are responding to the inside world, we might give ourselves a little more time in the reflex process and eventually change it all together.

Insightful Inspirations of the week

Pay attention to your reflex emotions this week. Times when you respond quickly and without thinking in an automatic fashion. Because it is a reflex, the initial attention will come after you have already been in the moment. But notice if it was appropriate for you to respond that strongly or with that particular emotion. Or is it automatic because of the person or situation? Did you get the full wisdom of those feelings or did it feel automatic? The mindfulness of these moments give us wisdom to see how our thoughts, actions and reflexes affect our lives, more so than the world around us. It is possible you will still like to keep your emotional response as it is, but just being aware of it, gives you new wisdom within yourself to tap into.

So often our differences with other people stems from communication issues. Someone said something they didn’t mean, we thought someone said something mean, we don’t mean what we say. So many issues arise in that fifth chakra and relationships! We all know this already.

What we don’t look into as often is the communication with ourselves. Our thoughts, our bodies, our emotions are all forms of self communication. However, normally we do these things without thinking there may be a miscommunication . We just assume we can communicate well with ourselves, but the fact is, sometimes we don’t.

We either ignore our own bodies, emotions, thoughts, etc. We try and change them or we misinterpret them. For example, do I really want to go out to dinner with that person or do I just feel obligated to? Another example would be when we try and change our physical body and it back fires. Let’s say we try and fix a problem by getting really healthy, which seems to cause more health issues. Well, maybe out body just got the communication that the only way you would listen is if it was causing problems. Sometimes we have to take ourselves off of automatic pilot and work on our communication issues.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Stop and listen to yourself. Really listen. What are you trying to tell yourself that you are trying to dismiss or deny? Maybe it is that aching thought that keeps coming up about something. You think it is just a silly thought and you keep putting it off, but pull it out and talk to it. Sit with that thought and feel it with complete awareness. There might be a better communication method there if you just stop long enough to give it a try.

Check in with any miscommunications you might be having with yourself. Are you pushing too hard on changing something about yourself that is causing other parts to dig it’s heels in on? Are you expecting too much? Are you limiting yourself, by expecting too little. This week, just work on communication with yourself in all aspects and see if it shifts your perspective.

Let me know how it goes.

If you knew that your actions were not going to receive any recognition, would you still do them? No one would say “Thank you” or know it was you who did it. No one would change their actions or even be grateful for what you have done. Would you still give of your time, effort, or resources?

The earth gives to us every day without expectations from us. The universe guides us without managing our choices or getting in the way of our mistakes. Rarely do we thank the  earth, the sun, the moon, the universe for all it does for us. Yet it still provides, every day.

However, our egos require recognition of our efforts and of the things we do for others. Without it we lose motivation and gain resentment. Think about it, we can’t even smile at each other without a smile in return. Often times in our relationships we will give to another, with expectations that they will do something in return, that is to our liking. Contracts for in our heads like “I took care of you while you were sick, so you will be there for me when I need you.” Or “I let you slide on a debt but now you won’t loan me $20 for lunch?” Or “I helped you get back on your feet and now you are screwing up again, you should be doing better!”

 If you think about it, our gifts with expectations are really not gifts. They backfire on us if we accept them, so then some of us learn to reject anything anyone gives us because we know it will come with strings, and we don’t want that.

 Insightful Inspiration of the Week

What are you giving someone else with expectations that they will do something in return? Try asking yourself, “Am I willing to give this, even if they don’t do anything with it?” Try giving things without expectations of anything in return. No strings attached. Become aware of how often your motive for doing something for someone else, is for something in return. See if you can just give this week without expecting anything back.

As always, feel free to share your thoughts.

Perspective – this is something I have blogged on more than once. The two sides to every story, how you can change your perspective, etc. What is so important about this topic? Dictionary.com provides seven different definitions of perspective. Wikipedia breaks it out into groups, i.e. graphical, visual, cognitive. All of which are relevant to the topic of understanding your place in the world. The one I am going to focus on today is “one’s “point of view”, the choice of a context for opinions, beliefs and experiences”.

In relationships with other people we spend a lot of time trying to see each other’s points of view. Convincing others to see our side of things, trying to understand where they are coming from, etc. But this is my enlightening lesson for you… no matter how hard you try and see another person’s point of view, you are still seeing their point of view from your point of view. It is impossible for you to truly see their point of view. All of their life experiences make them unique to how they perceive things. Scientist have proven this even with identical twins who have lived very similar lives. Their perspectives are still radically different. When I read for couples some times I can decode these perspectives to where they have “aha!” moments about it. It seems to relieve stress in the relationship and help them to accept each other more.

This is important to remind yourself of. Because when you are trying to understand or be understood, there is no right or wrong answer. There is no definative “this is the way things are”. We often spend a lot of energy trying to get to “right” vs. “wrong” but because of perspective this is different for everyone. The best part is, this is OKAY! It is wonderful for each and every one of us to see the world differently. It helps us realize endless possibilities of our human form. Our evolutionary possibilities are endless because we all see things differently!

Insightful Inspiration of the week

Are you spending energy and time trying to understand some one’s point of view or have them understand yours? Step back for a minute from this process. See it for what it is and the possibilities that this is creating. Maybe your significant other wants to spend some money going on vacation and you want to invest it on your house. What are the different points of views bringing to light for both of you. Can you take that wisdom with you as you search for a compromise? Why is the universe presenting you with this difference of opinion? What is it trying to get you to see differently?

Embrace who you are and how you think. This is your gift to the world. Share it with an open mind and open heart and encourage others to do the same.

Love to all of you.  Thanks for reading.

If any of you know me personally, you might know that on occasion… I worry. Yes, I admit it! The trust in the universe and the ability to read and heal only takes me so far, I still am fully intact with my own perfect imbalances.  My primary target of worry… my kids. This week, my oldest is getting the brunt of this as he has started a new school. He loves it, but he is doing some things are are triggering my worry button.

Well, today as a gift in the reading, I got to see this energy working first hand. It was an excellent reminder for me and I thought I would share. This could relate to being a parent or anyone else you worry about. What I got was that when you worry about someone, you are energetically saying “I don’t trust you to be okay”. You are sending them concerns about who, what, where, how they are. That is supporting them to be more out of whack than they already are. What would be more helpful for the person you love and have concerns for is to support them in their power. Sending them energy to support them in getting what they need out of the situation. Sending them “you are perfect and powerful the way you are and I trust you to be okay” thoughts. Energetically it is the difference between telling someone “you can do it” or “I HOPE you can do it”. Which one is more supportive? Imagine how that would feel if someone did that for you. Stopped worrying and started cheering you on.

Insightful Inspiration of the week

Who do you worry about the most? How can you shift that worry to support and trust? Take a look at the fears that reside under that worry. Face them head on and see if they are serving your highest good and the person you are worrying about. Notice how that shifts things for them and you. As always, I encourage you to share your thoughts here or on my Facebook page.

When people come for a session with me they get an energy bath.  I clean off patterns that are not supportive, foreign energy, other people in your space. Etc. This give people the sense of lightness, ease, and peace that helps them stand in their own power.

But it is even more important for everyone to learn good energetic hygiene for themselves. It is like taking a shower or brushing your teeth. You wouldn’t go years without doing that! Yet many of us neglect our energy fields and don’t acknowledge the power it has over how we feel and what we can accomplish.

The problem is none of us were trained to wash our energy. So you might need a little guidance, just to get your conscious mind around what it means to “clean” your energy field. There are books out there that you can get about these topics. There are classes you can take online and in person. The resources are out there and I highly encourage you to use them.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Establish a daily energetic cleansing technique for yourself and commit to doing it for at least a week. Notice what shifts as you do this. Here are some ideas on what you could do (it doesn’t have to take long). I always encourage you to explore what works for you and come up with your own technique.

Phase one: Grounding

• Visualize a grounding cord from your tail bone, dropping down to the center of the earth and connecting. Then open up as wide as your hips, making it hollow for full release.
• Go outside and site in the grass with your socks off.
• Visualize growing roots out of your butt and your feet, into the earth, feel the roots bringing nourishment back into your body from the earth.

Phase two: Cleansing

• Visualize a silver shower, rinsing away any energy that is not supporting you.
• Sit in the sun and take in the warmth allowing it to release any energy that is not supporting you.
• Rub your hands together and then pull them apart just an inch. Feel the energy surging between them, then use your hands to wipe off any energetic debris.

Phase three: Filling in

• Imagine a huge, golden sun above your head, calling all your energy from all directions in time back into it and then draining the golden energy into the top of your head, into your entire body and space around you.
• Feel the spark of divine light in your belly button and allow it to expand and fill in your body and space around you.
• Notice a source of light above your head, allow that light to shine into your body and the space around you.

Phase four: Shielding

• Imagine a rose in front of you, representing your energy, just outside your space. Ground it to the center of the earth and let it collect up all the energy of the world and process it for you.
• Surround yourself with white light.
• Use hematite jewelry or some other material that represents protection for you and allow it to shield your energy throughout the day.

Share you techniques with us on Facebook. If you have had an energy bath with me, share with us how that helped you in your daily life and give your insights on how your attention to this fact can help you going forward.