Insightful Inspirations

When people come for a session with me they get an energy bath.  I clean off patterns that are not supportive, foreign energy, other people in your space. Etc. This give people the sense of lightness, ease, and peace that helps them stand in their own power.

But it is even more important for everyone to learn good energetic hygiene for themselves. It is like taking a shower or brushing your teeth. You wouldn’t go years without doing that! Yet many of us neglect our energy fields and don’t acknowledge the power it has over how we feel and what we can accomplish.

The problem is none of us were trained to wash our energy. So you might need a little guidance, just to get your conscious mind around what it means to “clean” your energy field. There are books out there that you can get about these topics. There are classes you can take online and in person. The resources are out there and I highly encourage you to use them.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Establish a daily energetic cleansing technique for yourself and commit to doing it for at least a week. Notice what shifts as you do this. Here are some ideas on what you could do (it doesn’t have to take long). I always encourage you to explore what works for you and come up with your own technique.

Phase one: Grounding

• Visualize a grounding cord from your tail bone, dropping down to the center of the earth and connecting. Then open up as wide as your hips, making it hollow for full release.
• Go outside and site in the grass with your socks off.
• Visualize growing roots out of your butt and your feet, into the earth, feel the roots bringing nourishment back into your body from the earth.

Phase two: Cleansing

• Visualize a silver shower, rinsing away any energy that is not supporting you.
• Sit in the sun and take in the warmth allowing it to release any energy that is not supporting you.
• Rub your hands together and then pull them apart just an inch. Feel the energy surging between them, then use your hands to wipe off any energetic debris.

Phase three: Filling in

• Imagine a huge, golden sun above your head, calling all your energy from all directions in time back into it and then draining the golden energy into the top of your head, into your entire body and space around you.
• Feel the spark of divine light in your belly button and allow it to expand and fill in your body and space around you.
• Notice a source of light above your head, allow that light to shine into your body and the space around you.

Phase four: Shielding

• Imagine a rose in front of you, representing your energy, just outside your space. Ground it to the center of the earth and let it collect up all the energy of the world and process it for you.
• Surround yourself with white light.
• Use hematite jewelry or some other material that represents protection for you and allow it to shield your energy throughout the day.

Share you techniques with us on Facebook. If you have had an energy bath with me, share with us how that helped you in your daily life and give your insights on how your attention to this fact can help you going forward.

Influences… the free dictionary defines this as “A power affecting a person, thing, or course of events, especially one that operates without any direct or apparent effort”.  We have so many influences in our lives which I think we are only consciously aware of  about 10% of the time. It could be something obvious, like what your friend said to your yesterday or a blog you read. But it could also be something subtle, that you don’t give much attention to. Since this definition says “without any direct or apparent effort” I would venture to guess most of the time you are responding to the influences without even knowing it.

This is why it is so important to surround yourself with love, peace, abundance. The things you want. And when you aren’t surrounded by those things, it is hard to GET surrounded by those things, sometimes. Because you are influenced by the energy around you. Time and time again I see people gravitating in clumps of friends and family that have the same energy around things. This is not always supportive, even when these are their apparent support systems. For example, the friend who tells you all guys are jerks and you will never find a good one, so you might as well settle for what you can get. Or the group of friends who all are struggling to be happy with their lives and sit around and complain together.

Don’t get me wrong. I love to surround myself with people who get me and validate my struggles and don’t tell me to “get over it” or “I am in control”. But sometimes I need to be reminded of how reality is flexible and I am in control. If I was always just a confirmed victim by my support system, there shall I remain. So I want to make a conscious effort to surround myself with friends who encourage me to be the most whole person I can be. Who that it may change over time as we all grow.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Take a look at your influences in your life. Write them down. Are they supporting you in where you want to go in life? Are they helping you be the best you can be? If not, what can you do to shift the power this influence has in your life? This doesn’t mean you have to disown people.  You have the power to interact with these influences any way you want, if you are aware. Notice these influences and take what you need, leave the rest.

Part two… as you are influence, you too are the influencers. How are you influencing people? Are you supporting them to live their best lives?

This doesn’t just have to be people either. Think of other influences as well. For example electronics, work, the food you eat, the paint on your walls, the lighting in your room, the clothes you wear. It is all influencing you and those around you.

Interact with me on Facebook! I would love to hear what you think about this. Any of your own insights would be gladly consumed by the rest of us.

There is more to life than worry but some days it sure doesn’t feel like it does it? Sometime we are consumed with ourselves. The what ifs, the if onlys and the why mes! We just can’t help ourselves sometimes. We use everything around us to validate our victim state rather than validate our success. We have trouble just being satisfied with status quo. We have been taught status quo is BAD!

Status quo isn’tbad. It is just status quo… nothing more, nothing less. Wikipedia defines it as “current or existing state of affairs”. Aka the present moment, how things are, or NOW. Spiritual advisers since the beginning of time have been telling us the happiness is in the now, so  in other words, happiness is in status quo. Maintaining status quo is really what we have labeled as bad and the funny thing is, it is impossible to maintain status quo. It is always changing, moment to moment, even if you held you breath and sat still would be different because the earth is moving, you heart is beating, your stomach is working as so on. Maintaining status quo is impossible, so why are we so afraid of it. We are so afraid we aren’t moving in the right direction we start creating directions we “might”  move into to worry about. Stuff that hasn’t happened yet, yet we are trying to plan for it just in case it does which ironically makes it happen!

I did a reading today that actually was telling her she could move in a new direction, but if she chose not to, she can look around and expect more of the same. I think that is what we label bad. If we don’t like what we see, we don’t want it to stay the same. We want it to change. But if we don’t like what we see we fear change because we are afraid of creating more of the same or WORSE! If we could just get moving and not have any expectations on all of it, we would save ourselves a lot of mental anguish and bring in new experiences, for good or bad… but never dull!

Insightful Inspiration of the week

Accept status quo. Status quo is serving you up a dose of just what you need. Embrace it! Swallow it whole and then keep moving forward. Release yourself from the expectation that you SHOULD be somewhere different or things will be better WHEN something happens. Right now, life is as you have created it. Look around, use it as a shopping experience. Focus on what you want more of and go from there. Congratulations! You have come so far on your growth. The majority of your suffering has passed. Make a mental note of where you are now and know the next path is still unwritten there is more joy to have than pain. Bring it on by firmly planting your feet on all you have already built and allowing the next thing to come as it will with or without your worries.

Generally I am pretty open to my happy, optomistic self. But occasionally, like all of us, I get a little down. It is often a place I resist with fearce determination. I try and meditate, take herbs, get accupuncture, etc. to “fix” the “problem. To feel “better”. I spend so much time trying to treat the symptoms I don’t get down to what is really going on. I am trying to talk to myself about an imbalance I am ready to address. If only I would stop and listen!

Why don’t I stop and listen knowing what I know about all things? Well, what is there to look at is very painful and scary. I am afraid if I look at it, it will take hold and be the truth of who I am. I don’t trust myself to be with this pain and ever get out of it again. So instead of supporting this thing, I try and run from it, which only makes it worse and stronger. So what if I opened up to this and was this way forever? I want to be able to love myself no matter what.  But I have put certain criteria on  myself that make me “lovable” if I don’t meet those criteria I am what… not lovable? Of course not! I am still lovable. Sometimes I just have to remind myself that no matter what I am lovable. It is a test of the faith and trust I claim to have. It is me, like a toddler, acting up, just to make sure you still love me, no matter what. So I rise to the challenge and love my darkness just as I love my lightness in order to make room for light within me to shine brighter.

Insightful Inspiration of the week

This week, have a good cry without judgement on yourself of how you “should” be feeling. We have put obligations on our emotions. Emotions are not obligated to do anything, they are there to tell us about how we are interacting with the world around us. If we block ourselves off to our emotions or judgement as right or wrong, we are stealing away the power they have to communicate with us. Then these emotions stop working properly and get out of balance. We start feeling sad at times when we aren’t sure why. We feel more anger at a situation than is what you truly feel because you have blocked off the last four times you felt anger. 

See if you want things to fall back into balance. As you release this emotional valve, try no to judge it. Just let it open up and see what happens next. If there is a lot in there, don’t worry, it will stop flowing eventually and swing back the other way. When you start to doubt you should have opened the flood gates, just notice. Where is the fear of these emotions coming from? Did you learn as a kid these kinds of outbursts would get you in trouble? Just notice the fear is there as well. Fear of feeling.   Why are you afraid of feeling?  Just notice. Pay attention, see if you can send love to this part of yourself and let it be what ever it needs to be.

If other’s around you freak out by this new openness, just notice that too. That is their havingness for this situation and has nothing to do with the right an wrong of you. Send them compassion, but try and keep it from getting into your space about how you are feeling.

Write me if you want. I always love to hear how it is going.

Speaking as a recovering perfectionist, who loves things to go “her way” you have to know this is a lesson I too am still learning to fully embrace. My guides have been very active in pushing this topic on me lately. This is good business advice and life advice anyway… plan for mistakes. Make room for mess ups. This is the only way to grow and learn in life. It doesn’t have to be hard, it just has to be allowed.

We have such unrealistic expectations of our lives sometimes. Think about it as if you are a little kid, trying things out for the first time. You would never expect a child to take off the training wheels and take off perfectly the first time on their bike. You would never expect a kid to pick up an instrument and play Mozart. So why do we think we have to do everything perfectly? We must make room for trial and error, so we can be innovative and creative in our lives. We need room to explore, try things out and SCREW UP!

Insightful Inspiration for the Week

Make room for mistakes. Pick a area in your life that you normally try and “play it safe” and try making a little room for error. Maybe it is how you act around your boss or how you interview for a new job. Try and see if you can let go of the need for it to go perfectly and embrace the mistakes as they come. It is okay to mess up. You learn so much more this way!

Also, see if you can give other people a break this week too. When they make mistakes… try and congratulate them for all they are learning, rather then condemn them. Notice how much better you both feel!

As always, let me know how it goes.

A lot of people are going through the unemployment and divorce life crisis right now. Both of which can leave you feeling rejected and unwanted. There are periods in our life when we feel like people only like us for what we can give them, not because they authentically like us. We are angry because we feel used and alone in our most vulnerable times of need.

Yes, I am going to say, even this is for a reason. There are several things going on here. First, sometimes we established relationships with people based on something we give them and when we want to test the relationship by taking that thing away, we are shocked to find the relationship falls apart. For example, new jobs. You go into the interview, probably promising your devotion, hard work and endless talent. You get the job, then kill yourself for months working hard to prove yourself. Then the steam starts to run out and you realize what you did was over promise your love and over do your expectation setting on the level of work you could sustain long term. You blew your wad, if it were. Then your work quality starts to go down, although it might be more reasonable, it isn’t what you promised originally and your employer is feeling annoyed. You feel like “what the heck, I have been killing myself for this person”. Yeah… and that is what they began to expect! You could apply this to your friendships, your relationships, anything. Did you promise something you couldn’t sustain. Why didn’t you just promise what you could authentically do in the first place and accept that that is enough? You would have been better off to be rejected in the first place, then burn out your energy trying to be somewhere you don’t fit.

Another scenario is that sometimes we are meant to be alone to work through some things. Although right now, all we want in the world is someone to hold us and tell us it will be okay, that person isn’t there for a reason. You are meant to deal with things alone so you face them and work through them in your own energy. Other people will put “fix it” energy in our space in a time we need to just  be with something and so sometimes we need space, even if we don’t want it.

My point is, realize that every scenario is not a punishment to victimize you (yet again) in the world. It is there to teach you about your authentic, powerful self and highlight the beliefs and situations that you give your power to. It is there to help you stand tall in your own space, no matter what. You can use this rejected energy to curl up in a ball and feel sorry for yourself, or you can put that energy into healing your fears and self worth issues that have brought you here in the first place, so that you can go to new places in the future and not replay old patterns.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Embrace every moment as a teaching, healing moment. Where do you feel rejected? (even in the slightest) What is coming up in this rejection? Do you feel alone? Abused? Used? Under valued? Why is this a bad feeling for you? Is this true? Are you really being abused, used, under valued? If you are, why are you allowing that to happen? How is that serving you? Are you getting false acceptance from this behavior? Maybe you would like to change it but don’t know how. It is okay, just notice it for now and that you want to do something different. Keep that awareness and see how things shift. If you aren’t feeling abused, etc. then why are you letting yourself get worked up about it? Is it keeping you from looking at the real issue for yourself?

Allow every moment, no matter how hard, to be a moment of reflection for yourself. Rather than resist it and try to get out of it, embrace it. Let it teach you. You are already suffering, why not get some value out of it. It is like sitting in a laundry mat waiting for your clothes to dry, might as well do something valuable, like read that book you haven’t gotten around to, while you are there. Why waste a good opportunity to learn.

Happy healing.

As you know by now, if you are a regular reader, I often blog on the theme of the week that is coming up in the readings I am doing. These are messages that I feel are not only for the client and myself, but for all of us right now. This week, it is that ever present concept of the power of our thoughts, but this time it is about the power of thoughts on other people.

The power of your thoughts not only affects you, but it affects the people around you, even if they don’t know what you are thinking. This is like a magical super power, the ability to pump up or drain some one’s energy just by what you are thinking. When you have a negative thought about someone, it drains them of their energy. It lowers their vibration and can even change their mood, if they are not consciously protecting themselves. This could be referred to as a psychic attack, but honestly… we do this to each other all the time! This is no joke. This truly happens.  

Someone annoys you at work and you send them annoyed vibes. They don’t necessarily notice it, but it affect them. The people we live with are most vulnerable. We love them, but sometimes we send them negative thoughts. We don’t say it out loud (always) but maybe we maybe are thinking “oh yeah right you are going to get that done today… I will believe it when I see it!”. Well, guess what, you have just implanted an energy draining thought that may just get in the way of this person’s ability to execute. Why do we care? Often times we want someone in our lives to succeed or be happier, but we are contributing to the problem by sending them negative energy which drains them. Then they live up to our expectations of failure. Perhaps they wouldn’t annoy you so much if you sent them happier vibes.

Try this with someone you know. Have them hold up their arm and resist you pushing it down. Then have them hold up their arm and and send them a negative or positive thought (don’t tell them which one) and try and push down their arm. If you are sending them a negative thought such as “i am so mad at you” they won’t be able to hold their arm up. If you send them a positive vibe such as “I love you” they will be strong as ever.

Insightful Inspiration for the Week

Check in with your thoughts. Where are you sending negative vibes out to someone? This can be anger, judgement, resentment, etc. This is not to say that you aren’t allowed to have your feelings about life and situations. But check where you are sending this energy and realize it has an impact. If you are aware you are negatively impacting another person just with your thoughts, you might do something different with them. (notice I say might… )

This week, make a mental note of where you are sending negative vibes to people you love. Husbands and wives tend to be the easiest target of distressed thoughts. Are you sweet on the outside but flinging resentment on the inside? Are you supporting someone in their efforts verbally but thinking they are doomed to fail? Play with your thoughts on this level. Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. “I love that he/she has so many ideas.” instead of “I swear he/she never follows through with anything.” OR “I love that he/she can relax on the couch so easily, it reminds me to relax.” instead of “I wish he/she would get off her butt and help me!” Just try it… see what you notice and of course share your experiences with this one.

Have a powerful week!