Insightful Inspirations

Sometimes I find that we have trouble being decisive. People often call me to help them make a decision. I try to careful not to tell them what to do or how to do it… that is their choice to make. But walking that line of giving enough information that might help them tap into their own clarity better and make decisions with confidence and ease. Decisions seem to be a constant dilemma we all deal with in our lives.

Making decisions isn’t always easy, but my guides are always telling me that we give it too much credit. We are just choosing what experience we would like to have, nothing more. Why do we fret over things as if they are life or death then? Our egos! Making a decision and moving forward with it without looking back or regretting it later is a huge gift you can give yourself. It helps you be present rather than always looking into the past and future about what you did or didn’t do right or wrong.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Work on being decisive this week. Make decisions and move forward with them. Notice when you are judging yourself about them or trying to control the outcome of them. See if you can let that go. If not, ask yourself why you are getting hung up there. What are you really afraid of? What do you need to make you feel okay with this decision? How can you give that to yourself? As doubt and fears come up, notice. This is your key to the things blocking you from what you want. Work with it with love and see how this shifts your energy. As always, I encourage you to share your ideas on this with me and others on my facebook page.  

Influences… the free dictionary defines this as “A power affecting a person, thing, or course of events, especially one that operates without any direct or apparent effort”.  We have so many influences in our lives which I think we are only consciously aware of  about 10% of the time. It could be something obvious, like what your friend said to your yesterday or a blog you read. But it could also be something subtle, that you don’t give much attention to. Since this definition says “without any direct or apparent effort” I would venture to guess most of the time you are responding to the influences without even knowing it.

This is why it is so important to surround yourself with love, peace, abundance. The things you want. And when you aren’t surrounded by those things, it is hard to GET surrounded by those things, sometimes. Because you are influenced by the energy around you. Time and time again I see people gravitating in clumps of friends and family that have the same energy around things. This is not always supportive, even when these are their apparent support systems. For example, the friend who tells you all guys are jerks and you will never find a good one, so you might as well settle for what you can get. Or the group of friends who all are struggling to be happy with their lives and sit around and complain together.

Don’t get me wrong. I love to surround myself with people who get me and validate my struggles and don’t tell me to “get over it” or “I am in control”. But sometimes I need to be reminded of how reality is flexible and I am in control. If I was always just a confirmed victim by my support system, there shall I remain. So I want to make a conscious effort to surround myself with friends who encourage me to be the most whole person I can be. Who that it may change over time as we all grow.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Take a look at your influences in your life. Write them down. Are they supporting you in where you want to go in life? Are they helping you be the best you can be? If not, what can you do to shift the power this influence has in your life? This doesn’t mean you have to disown people.  You have the power to interact with these influences any way you want, if you are aware. Notice these influences and take what you need, leave the rest.

Part two… as you are influence, you too are the influencers. How are you influencing people? Are you supporting them to live their best lives?

This doesn’t just have to be people either. Think of other influences as well. For example electronics, work, the food you eat, the paint on your walls, the lighting in your room, the clothes you wear. It is all influencing you and those around you.

Interact with me on Facebook! I would love to hear what you think about this. Any of your own insights would be gladly consumed by the rest of us.

I often get my messages in metaphors that relate to my life in some way. It is so I can interpret the language of the cosmos into a way that can be (somewhat) understood. Our ability to perceive the vastness of this information is limited by our own systems, perceptions, etc. But I feel what ever is needed will come through, regardless.

That being said, I am going to share my personal message I received this week. I often have long, in depth conversations in my sleep (it is challenging to by my husband and sleep next to me ). This one came in  my sleep by I requested to remember it so I can share it with you.

I was shown a diving board as my spring board into the next place I want to go into my life. It was balanced, springy, and ready to launch me. Then it was explained that this was a metaphor for being weighed down by either past, present or future. I am always striving to be in the present moment, but what that mean is a combination of my past experiences, my current experience and my thoughts on the future. Not just the present.

The back of the diving board represents the past. If it is balanced, it provides support for the board and allows it to extend out over the water. If it out of balance the board may fall over or prevent the board itself to be springy.

The board itself is the future. If we are stretching ourselves too far out into the future with our worries and concerns, the board is very long and we could walk down it forever before we get to the end, and most likely won’t be able to be supported by the past and present.

The end of the board is your present, your launching off spot. If you are in the past, you are still on the steps, if you are walking down the board you are focused on the future.

I hope this is making as much sense to you as it did to me.

Bottom line, the past has made you who you are and adds value to your moment, but isn’t something to focus on. The future is out there and you can make goals, but give yourself places to jump off from rather than keep extending your board to a place impossible to reach. Then…get ready to JUMP!

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Use this metaphor to examine your own life. Is your diving board in balance? Are you able to use your past to support you rather than hinder you? Are you able to give yourself places to jump off rather than constantly push your thoughts into the “what ifs” of the future? How can you bring yourself into balance and prepare yourself for the next leap? Remember, you can always go for a swim, get out and do it again for the next experience.

Have a nice swim! We are all still learning so let yourself have a break from the “perfect”.

Eww… okay, I know, but as the stress of the holidays bears down on my VERY sensitive skin, I get reminded of what I hear regularly from my guides. Don’t push it or force the issue to the surface before it is ready. This isn’t really all about a pimple… I just wanted to get your attention and I love metaphors present in our life. Even the unpleasant ones. Okay, a better one might be that a mother duck doesn’t help her babies out of their eggs. Even though she knows what needs to happen next and it seems like such a struggle. It is a necessary struggle.

But that is just it, it IS related to your life. So quickly we want to rush through hard situations and push things through to the other side when things are “clear” again. We want to force things to be done before they are and in doing so make things worse or make them last longer than necessary.

When I offer healings to others I  have to set my space to allow them to be supported where they are rather than where they “should” be. I do not judge where they are at and try and point them where I want them to go, but simply help them be more present in their power NOW. I am sympathetic to the struggle but often times can find humor in it too, where there typically is none. (not always appreciated by the client but helpful to the healing nevertheless) But my judgement is no more useful than their own, on what to do next.  The reason this is true is for several profound reasons. One most important fact being I don’t know what I don’t know. Meaning, I may have an idea in my head of what might work better. But the direction this person is heading is usually in a place I couldn’t even dream up. So who am I to limit the healing with my thoughts and ideas. Instead, I open up to the power of the miracle and just facilitate whatever goodness wants to show up. Maybe there are some hints in their on where to look, but never a “should” or “must” or hurry and get to the next place in life.

Now if only I could do that in my own life 100% of the time!

Insightful Inspiration of the Week

What are you trying to force to closure before it is ready? What issue are you trying to rush? See if you can allow yourself to drop away some of that urgency and just be with the situation at hand. Notice, are you making it worse by trying to “fix it”? Perhaps you are suppose to just step back and allow it to turn itself. Maybe you are over correcting and it will swing back into balance if you take your expectations out of it.

Release yourself from the responsibility to make things “right” and see what purpose the situation is serving. Don’t beat yourself up for where you are or how you got there. Instead see the good of it. If you can’t figure it out now, try stepping back from it. Find something else to do that is fun and makes you laugh. Then return to it with fresh eyes to see what else you can learn. This isn’t to say the universe doesn’t want us to have endurance, but sometimes it wants us to take our white knuckled grip of the steering wheel and let it drive. Remember, you can’t know, what you don’t know. But divinity is there to help us allow more of the goodness to show up so we can know it. If we allow it to. This is called surrender.

If you read my blogs at all, you know I am not really going to tell you to give up if you are feeling overwhelmed. But the truth is, it is part of the reason we have trouble moving forward sometimes. We can see there is so much to fix and so much going wrong, we just can’t make it work, so why try? It is like trying to contiplate swimming across the ocean.  Add to this the way things are today, especially in the US, we are bombarded with unconscious ways of doing things where our food, clothes, lives come from corporate practices that are less than good for our bodies, let alone our energy, we are maxed out.

What I am seeing happen a lot lately is the straw factor… the camel is so overloaded that one straw throws the whole thing off. It makes the person feel crazy, because they thing “I should be able to handle one piece of straw”. But the straw isn’t the issue, the issue is all the rest of the crap that made you so sensitive, you can’t take it any more. Give yourself a break and then look at all the things behind that last thing that threw you over the edge. It isn’t just that one thing it is everything. I know I have already mentioned keeping your space clean, but it is more than just dusting and decluttering. It is just starting to notice where you are overwhelming yourself with negativity.

If someone can take a piece of jewelry from someone else and hold it in their hand and tell their story (which is a fun exercise to try, most of us can do this to some extent), imagine this power being held in everything you have in your house. That lamp you bought has the energy of the people who made the metal, plastic, cloth and parts associated with this lamp. It has the energy of the packing company and the material suppliers of that. It has the energy of the person who loaded it on the truck, drove the truck and stocked it on the shelves. It has the energy of the person who sold it to you… and so on! Energy is on every thing and affecting you, even if you don’t know it.

I tell you this not to overwhelm your further. But to just make you aware of why you are feeling overwhelmed and empower you to change it. Sometimes simplifying your life, space and world can help you learn your limits and modify accodingly. It can help you just be more mindful in your life, which helps you be more in the present moment and manifest what you want in life. It isn’t about noticing everything that is wrong around you, it is just about noticing everything around you, period. Notice how many things you have in your house. Think about the effort brought into manifesting that into your home. Be mindful of what you label as important and give yourself a break for feeling bombarded by the world. You are, sometimes you just need a break from it and kids do too.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Pick one thing in your life to pay more attention to this week. Maybe it is just your toothpaste or the shampoo you use. Think about the energy that is put into this thing, where the materials came from, how they came together, how they got to you. Notice if that is what you want to be putting into your energy. Just do this with one thing and notice how you feel about this product. It may be something you feel good about… it is just to notice. This isn’t an exercise in ridding your life of negative energy, it is just about being more aware of all the sources that come to you so that when you are feeling overwhelmed, you know how to reduce the noise and get back to yourself. It is about understand how your energy interacts with the world, and doing it consicously.   Good luck. If you feel overwhelmed just by this one extra thing, this is also something to just notice. What can you do to help yourself feel less overwhelmed instead? Share your ideas.

Have a wonderful weekend!

There is one thing that overwhelmingly comes up in the healings I do for other people… People can not be moved into a place they are not ready for. I can try and heal them, clear them, advise them and tell them their likely path but it won’t help them be somewhere they aren’t. It merely supports them to be where they are. So why bother?  Because you can’t go anywhere until you are somewhere. When I offer a healing to someone, I am offering them grounding, presence and the ability to have more of the NOW.

What does this mean? It means that most of the time we spend trying to propel ourselves forward to some place other than where we are. We are always on the go, moving towards news goals, executing plans and “improving” ourselves. But if we never stop to enjoy where we are, we are always chasing our tails. We can’t put ourselves in alignment with our highest good,  unless we take time to notice what that even is. This is the real reason a lot of spiritual practices talk about being still and meditating or praying. It is because most of us don’t slow down long enough to listen to ourselves and just be.

I am not saying stop moving forward and setting goals. What I am saying is to try and be grateful for where you are first. This gives you a sense of direction. If you don’t first notice where you are, you can’t get up enough energy to go where you want. It is like looking at a map for directions without knowing where you are. It is all just random roads and landmarks that mean nothing.

Insightful Inspiration of the Week

Notice where you are. Be with that feeling and send gratitude towards it. When you are setting goals this week, first map out where you have come to. List out your accomplishments, your amazing life and notice where you are now. Are you fed? Are you warm? Are you in clothes that you like and picked out from a closet of clothes?  Your life is amazing no matter where you are at. Bring yourself fully into that amazing part of yourself and the only place you will choose to go on the map from here is to more amazing places. If you are directly conscious efforts to where you are, you will have more awareness of where you are going and make choices about those directions.

You are not in complete control, but that is the fun part! You never know what is coming next, but once it does you can just be with it.

It is great to set goals and make visions for the future, but this week, try and focus on where you are, not where you want to go. Even if you can only do it for a few minutes a day. As always, you are encouraged to share!

We all know life is a challenge. We wouldn’t have it any other way. How boring would life be if we knew everything that was coming or could easily overcome obstacles? The key is to acknowledge the challenges for what they are… co-creations of our lives. I know it is hard to see suffering and believe on some level that person created it for themselves. Of course they didn’t do it on purpose, but there is a part of their divine intellegence that wants them to have this suffering experience. Something to learn from. This same thing comes to you. Some things in life, you can’t do without suffering. Not because you WANT to suffer, but because you struggle with seeing life any other way unless something drastic comes along to change it. If we knew how, we could easily learn all things without suffering. But for what ever reason, we have set ourselves up to “learn the hard way” most of the time.

How differnt would your life be if you viewed these challenges and suffering in your life as gifts rather than punishments? How would you recieve your challenges? What if you looked at it as an opportunity with an intention behind it? There is no random order of things. All things happen in perfect timing. The best way to cope with the challenging times is to say “what is the universe trying to bring me here?” “What gift am I to have that I could have no other way?”

Let me give you an example. Several years ago, my husband and I hit a “bump” in the road if you will. He did things, that at the time, I would have thought were unforgiveable. He didn’t do anything TO me, but I surely felt like it was done TO me. I struggled with the victim role I was suddenly feeling in. I fought with it and struggled with it and begged the universe to explain itself to me. You know what… IT DID! I soon discovered that I was out of balance with my life. I was devoting my every waking hour to my kids, home and husband. Not a very balanced approach to life, because I left out a key ingredient… ME. Because I felt so victimized from my situation, I gave myself permission to focus on me. I found time to exercise, take classes, meditate more. I did all of things thing, at first, to spite my husband for not taking my gift of self sacrifice fully. Guess what, he didn’t want it! He wanted me to be this well rounded person who first took care of me. I wouldn’t have been able to do it, if at first, I hadn’t felt justified in some way other than, I just need time for me. Now I have time for me, and it is great and everyone is happier. But it took this experience to show me “how” to give to me.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

What are you struggling with right now? Big or small… pick something you want to focus on learning from. Send it love an gratitude for trying to break through to you. Even if it is a struggle to send it gratitude, do what you can here. Then ask it, what are you trying to teach me? What am I suppose to be getting out of this experience. Then, just wait. You will find the answer in your life if you pay attention. It may not come to you in a meditation or as a “sign” but you will start to get hints. You only have to listen and don’t doubt the coincidences.

The universe responds to us, we just don’t always speak the same language. It is kind of like you are a baby, screaming for something. You don’t even know what it is, all you know is you are uncomfortable. The universe has changed you, fed you and burped you and you are still screaming. You need to send clearer, better signals that the universe can understand. This means first, you have to check in with yourself and KNOW what you want to ask for. You are still going to be put down in a place you don’t like sometimes.  You may protest, but maybe the universe wants you to learn something from it first and then you will be moved again. I am getting the baby metaphore a lot lately, so honor yourselves with that newness that you once had see how it works in your life.

Happy exploring! Email me or comment here if you have questions or comments. I love the converstations with all of you!

A lot of people are going through the unemployment and divorce life crisis right now. Both of which can leave you feeling rejected and unwanted. There are periods in our life when we feel like people only like us for what we can give them, not because they authentically like us. We are angry because we feel used and alone in our most vulnerable times of need.

Yes, I am going to say, even this is for a reason. There are several things going on here. First, sometimes we established relationships with people based on something we give them and when we want to test the relationship by taking that thing away, we are shocked to find the relationship falls apart. For example, new jobs. You go into the interview, probably promising your devotion, hard work and endless talent. You get the job, then kill yourself for months working hard to prove yourself. Then the steam starts to run out and you realize what you did was over promise your love and over do your expectation setting on the level of work you could sustain long term. You blew your wad, if it were. Then your work quality starts to go down, although it might be more reasonable, it isn’t what you promised originally and your employer is feeling annoyed. You feel like “what the heck, I have been killing myself for this person”. Yeah… and that is what they began to expect! You could apply this to your friendships, your relationships, anything. Did you promise something you couldn’t sustain. Why didn’t you just promise what you could authentically do in the first place and accept that that is enough? You would have been better off to be rejected in the first place, then burn out your energy trying to be somewhere you don’t fit.

Another scenario is that sometimes we are meant to be alone to work through some things. Although right now, all we want in the world is someone to hold us and tell us it will be okay, that person isn’t there for a reason. You are meant to deal with things alone so you face them and work through them in your own energy. Other people will put “fix it” energy in our space in a time we need to just  be with something and so sometimes we need space, even if we don’t want it.

My point is, realize that every scenario is not a punishment to victimize you (yet again) in the world. It is there to teach you about your authentic, powerful self and highlight the beliefs and situations that you give your power to. It is there to help you stand tall in your own space, no matter what. You can use this rejected energy to curl up in a ball and feel sorry for yourself, or you can put that energy into healing your fears and self worth issues that have brought you here in the first place, so that you can go to new places in the future and not replay old patterns.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Embrace every moment as a teaching, healing moment. Where do you feel rejected? (even in the slightest) What is coming up in this rejection? Do you feel alone? Abused? Used? Under valued? Why is this a bad feeling for you? Is this true? Are you really being abused, used, under valued? If you are, why are you allowing that to happen? How is that serving you? Are you getting false acceptance from this behavior? Maybe you would like to change it but don’t know how. It is okay, just notice it for now and that you want to do something different. Keep that awareness and see how things shift. If you aren’t feeling abused, etc. then why are you letting yourself get worked up about it? Is it keeping you from looking at the real issue for yourself?

Allow every moment, no matter how hard, to be a moment of reflection for yourself. Rather than resist it and try to get out of it, embrace it. Let it teach you. You are already suffering, why not get some value out of it. It is like sitting in a laundry mat waiting for your clothes to dry, might as well do something valuable, like read that book you haven’t gotten around to, while you are there. Why waste a good opportunity to learn.

Happy healing.

I found out today that my son’s best friend just got the same teacher my son had last year. The thing about this teacher is, she drove us out of our public school and into private because of how badly she treated our son and us. Obviously, there are some hard feelings between us and this teacher (probably more on our end… the teacher was glad to be rid of our child and us her class I would guess). I find myself wondering what if this other child has a great experience with her? Does that mean it was all our fault for the bad experience? (of course I want this child to have a wonderful year)

But this got me to reflecting, as everything does,  about our perspective in the world and how it is our own to have. If this other child (or any children for that matter) love this teacher and have a positive experience with her, it doesn’t invalidate the experience our child had. Each experience is its own and it isn’t a requirement that the whole world have the same experiences as us to have our experience be true.

Taking this a step further, I am always thinking of the other side of the story. The “two sides to every story” concept. Wondering what her story could possibly be, at the same time, being able to see it perfectly. I can have compassion for the teacher who has a full class, with several children who have special needs, one of which loves to debate every rule and issue and has passive agressive behavior down to a science (that’s mine . If the parents would just “make” their child more accountable for his “bad” behavior, her life would be easier, but instead they (we) insist on requesting she work with this personality and allow it to be guided in positive directions rather than stopped. Who has time for that, this is not a private school with a ratio of 1 to 10 for goodness sake!

Of course, our side being that our child is very intelligent and has a very unique and useful personality IF guided in the right direction. Of course, improperly guided or used it turns into a nightmare of boundary testing and an unmotivated student. There is of course some of my spirituality in there as well, with says that children are here to teach us as much as we are here to teach them and we must pay attention to those lessons as well.

My point is… there is probably something you are hanging onto as a personal attack of some sort. Something you feel was a violation against you, at no fault of your own. Hanging on to these things (as I obviously am a bit too) isn’t going to help you feel lighter, more connected,  and ready for the next thing. It will leave you feeling gun shy, bitter, even resentful.

Insightful Inspiration of the week

Reflect on a situation you have taken personally or are still holding a grudge over. Something you think someone else has done to you unfairly. Take a look at this from all angles and sides. Allowing yourself to view it as if from a third party stance. What is happening here really? Why do you care what this person has done? What does it matter? Is it over and done with? If so, can you move on and forgive and forget? Why not?  What parts of you feel wounded? Do you feel hurt? Angry? Maybe you feel you have something to prove or convince this person of.

In the scenario above, my mothering was questioned a lot with this teacher. She obviously believed I wasn’t doing a good job. That hit me to the core and I wanted to prove her wrong no matter what. But here is the catch, I don’t have to prove her wrong! I am a wonderful mother to my children. I know this and do my best with them every day.  But I had to heal this part of myself, realizing that some part of me must have wondered if she was right. Otherwise, why would I care?

The other thing that poked me to the core was her belief that my child was “bad” in some way. Again, I wanted to prove her wrong. This was more about me wanting to see the world accept my unique child without question. I so badly want the world to accept ME too and find my clairvoyant abilities and just my presence to light some people up into judgement. I don’t want this for my child. Again, perfect place to work on healing myself.  There was only the validation to my child (who told me he thought this teacher thought he was the devil) that I thought he deserved better and put him in another school. (public school wouldn’t let us have a different teacher) Allowing both he and I to accept ourselves as we are, rather than trying to convince the world to accept us. Teaching him to love himself and trust himself first, then listen to the input of others.

I ask you to take a step back from your head for a second and use these moments in your life as ways to heal yourself rather than injure yourself further. Love yourself for bringing these scenarios into your life to teach you what you want to learn as a spirit. Embrace them, rather than be victimized by them. 

Share your thoughts please!

Sending unconditional love and light your way this week. – Leanne