Insightful Inspirations

If you are into any metaphysical stuff, you will often hear about the ego. Most of the time the ego is pointed out as something to let go of, something NOT to live your life through. But I personally think that is impossible for most of us. It isn’t the point for us yet.

I read this book called “The Rascal’s Guide to Enlightenment” by Mat-zo the unleavened one. You can tell by the title and author’s name it is a funny one. Anyway in his book he has a “I love my Ego Rebuild Kit”. It says something along the lines of if you have ruined your ego through too much enlightenment work, use this rebuilding kit to fix it up. It is a pretty funny book. I recommend it to anyone.

My point is that everything is about balance. As I watch children grow, I see their ego forming. It is part of development. Without it, we would miss an important part of our lessons in life. As always it is just about balance. We don’t want to run the world with our egos out of whack because then we forget that we aren’t the center of the universe and right about everything.

Sonia Choquette, one of my favorite authors and psychics said this about the ego in an interview. “Every human being has had some experience of guidance. That is not our challenge. Our challenge is: Will our ego humble enough to acknowledge that there is more than the ego running the world and the experience of the human journey through life?”

I don’t think it is about blowing the ego away. But it is about using our consciousness to bring it all into balance. I believe when we aren’t in a body, our ego goes away, so just like our bodies, we have a limited time to experiment with it.

Insightful Inspiration of the Week

This week, check in with your ego. What state is it in? Is it bruised, defensive, puffed up? How much say does it have in your life? Is it balanced with everything else you do? Can you tell the difference between your ego and your higher self? Are you able to have humility and see things differently than before?

As always, you are welcome to share your thoughts.

Wikipedia describes Tickle Torture as the use of tickling to abuse or dominate someone. The victim laughs although the experience is unpleasant because the laughter is an innate reflex rather than social conditioning. I thought this was a great idea to blog about. The concept of having a pleasure response (here it is laughing) as a reflex. What other responses are just reflexes?

It is different for everyone, but I do think we have automatic responses to certain stimulus, depending on our complex make up of personality, genetics, background, gender, etc. Emotions can and do go beyond just social conditioning. Can we train ourselves to remove the reflex and have more intentional reactions. Of course we can, but first we have to recognize our reflex first. The automatic responses we have to things feel necessary and we will defend them at every chance. But if we start to realize we aren’t responding to the outside world as much as we are responding to the inside world, we might give ourselves a little more time in the reflex process and eventually change it all together.

Insightful Inspirations of the week

Pay attention to your reflex emotions this week. Times when you respond quickly and without thinking in an automatic fashion. Because it is a reflex, the initial attention will come after you have already been in the moment. But notice if it was appropriate for you to respond that strongly or with that particular emotion. Or is it automatic because of the person or situation? Did you get the full wisdom of those feelings or did it feel automatic? The mindfulness of these moments give us wisdom to see how our thoughts, actions and reflexes affect our lives, more so than the world around us. It is possible you will still like to keep your emotional response as it is, but just being aware of it, gives you new wisdom within yourself to tap into.

When you body craves something, it is typically craving an experience of some sort. Whether it be something sweet, a beer, a cigarette, or just an apple, what your body really wants is the vibration of taking in that experience.

For example, for some people smoking becomes the only time when they stop and relax for a minute for themselves. So when they try and quit, they can’t because they aren’t giving themselves this experience in any other way. Some people crave sugar because they are trying find the sweetness in life, but are struggling to do so. Craving fat can be about grounding and slowing things down. You are just as addicted to the experience itself as you are to the thing you are ingesting.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

The next time a craving comes on, big or small, pay attention to everything related to the experience around this craving. See if you can notice what brought on the craving and how you feel after answering the craving. That will tell you a lot about the experience you are seeking. Then see if you can find other ways to meet that craving before it becomes a craving. You might try giving yourself more of that experience throughout the day rather than just when the craving hits. See how it shifts your relationship with that craving.

As always, please feel free to share.

We play with our energy so unconsciously sometimes we don’t even know what we are doing until it’s done. It is like eating half a pint of ice cream before noticing! Now think what that would do to your hips (or thighs, or where ever you prefer to put on weight). Same goes for not taking in enough food. If you are too busy to eat all of the time, you will get too thin to be healthy.

The same thing is happening to your energy field. Without proper exercise, maintenance, and awareness we all get energetically out of whack. Putting too much burden on our energy systems or too little.

Like you body type, the amount of energy you actually need is different for everyone. Some people are naturally heavy and some naturally light and where you store that energy differs too. But the point is that you can manage a healthy energetic weight by bring awareness to it.

Insightful Inspirations for the week

Get yourself on a healthy energy plan. Find time to connect with yourself, play with your energy or exercise it and pay attention to when you are unconsciously taking on too much or too little. Think of it like a meal and plan for it. Work with it, move it, become friends with it. You can get involved in the more complicated techniques to balance your chakras and aura, if you have the time and energy. But you would be better off spending a little time with yourself every day than trying to cram in a completely new way of living all at once and then quit all together. Just like a diet.

Today is going to be what I would call, a “mentally messy” day. These are the kinds of days where you get in your head and rummage around, trying to make sense of things. The messiest part of it is that it is about things that I think I already had figured out.

Do you feel like sometimes you are trying so hard to get it, then you do, and then it falls apart again only to discover another layer you haven’t figured out yet? It may even completely disprove what you thought you already knew. Does that mean you were wrong in the first place? Of course not. It was right at the time, things have just shifted. If you could let go of the mental space of it, you would quickly see there is magic in the movement. The mind is a tricky thing and you can’t trust it. That is why it is always helpful to go deeper with yourself. Have the conversations beyond the mental space. Move into the knowing, being, presence of it all.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

See where things get mentally messy for you. Notice, when you are getting “in your head” about the issue. That part of you that says you must weigh all of your options, understand the situation, or mentally massage the outcome. See if you can just watch and be a witness to your own mind.  Pay attention to how quickly your mind can take over and unground you in the reality of the situation. Check in with the imbalance of power within yourself.  Bring yourself back to center with it and let the mind work in concert with your spirit and your body. This is the power of all that you are. You are not just your thoughts, but they are a powerful force in your life. Take note and use that power to create the life you want not the life you think you should have.

So often our differences with other people stems from communication issues. Someone said something they didn’t mean, we thought someone said something mean, we don’t mean what we say. So many issues arise in that fifth chakra and relationships! We all know this already.

What we don’t look into as often is the communication with ourselves. Our thoughts, our bodies, our emotions are all forms of self communication. However, normally we do these things without thinking there may be a miscommunication . We just assume we can communicate well with ourselves, but the fact is, sometimes we don’t.

We either ignore our own bodies, emotions, thoughts, etc. We try and change them or we misinterpret them. For example, do I really want to go out to dinner with that person or do I just feel obligated to? Another example would be when we try and change our physical body and it back fires. Let’s say we try and fix a problem by getting really healthy, which seems to cause more health issues. Well, maybe out body just got the communication that the only way you would listen is if it was causing problems. Sometimes we have to take ourselves off of automatic pilot and work on our communication issues.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Stop and listen to yourself. Really listen. What are you trying to tell yourself that you are trying to dismiss or deny? Maybe it is that aching thought that keeps coming up about something. You think it is just a silly thought and you keep putting it off, but pull it out and talk to it. Sit with that thought and feel it with complete awareness. There might be a better communication method there if you just stop long enough to give it a try.

Check in with any miscommunications you might be having with yourself. Are you pushing too hard on changing something about yourself that is causing other parts to dig it’s heels in on? Are you expecting too much? Are you limiting yourself, by expecting too little. This week, just work on communication with yourself in all aspects and see if it shifts your perspective.

Let me know how it goes.

If you knew that your actions were not going to receive any recognition, would you still do them? No one would say “Thank you” or know it was you who did it. No one would change their actions or even be grateful for what you have done. Would you still give of your time, effort, or resources?

The earth gives to us every day without expectations from us. The universe guides us without managing our choices or getting in the way of our mistakes. Rarely do we thank the  earth, the sun, the moon, the universe for all it does for us. Yet it still provides, every day.

However, our egos require recognition of our efforts and of the things we do for others. Without it we lose motivation and gain resentment. Think about it, we can’t even smile at each other without a smile in return. Often times in our relationships we will give to another, with expectations that they will do something in return, that is to our liking. Contracts for in our heads like “I took care of you while you were sick, so you will be there for me when I need you.” Or “I let you slide on a debt but now you won’t loan me $20 for lunch?” Or “I helped you get back on your feet and now you are screwing up again, you should be doing better!”

 If you think about it, our gifts with expectations are really not gifts. They backfire on us if we accept them, so then some of us learn to reject anything anyone gives us because we know it will come with strings, and we don’t want that.

 Insightful Inspiration of the Week

What are you giving someone else with expectations that they will do something in return? Try asking yourself, “Am I willing to give this, even if they don’t do anything with it?” Try giving things without expectations of anything in return. No strings attached. Become aware of how often your motive for doing something for someone else, is for something in return. See if you can just give this week without expecting anything back.

As always, feel free to share your thoughts.

This week’s inspiration is effortless, easy, simple… HA! Believe it or not, for most of us, doing nothing is the hardest thing of all to do. To just sit… not listen, watch, do, or think.  Just be.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Do nothing. Try doing nothing for 15 minutes. Just sitting. With no agenda, but to do nothing. Not even meditating. Just sitting. See what comes up. What feelings come up? How does your body feel? What do you observe? You might find you body has been trying to talk to you for weeks. Give it a try. Share your experiences with the rest of us.

When people come for a session with me they get an energy bath.  I clean off patterns that are not supportive, foreign energy, other people in your space. Etc. This give people the sense of lightness, ease, and peace that helps them stand in their own power.

But it is even more important for everyone to learn good energetic hygiene for themselves. It is like taking a shower or brushing your teeth. You wouldn’t go years without doing that! Yet many of us neglect our energy fields and don’t acknowledge the power it has over how we feel and what we can accomplish.

The problem is none of us were trained to wash our energy. So you might need a little guidance, just to get your conscious mind around what it means to “clean” your energy field. There are books out there that you can get about these topics. There are classes you can take online and in person. The resources are out there and I highly encourage you to use them.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Establish a daily energetic cleansing technique for yourself and commit to doing it for at least a week. Notice what shifts as you do this. Here are some ideas on what you could do (it doesn’t have to take long). I always encourage you to explore what works for you and come up with your own technique.

Phase one: Grounding

• Visualize a grounding cord from your tail bone, dropping down to the center of the earth and connecting. Then open up as wide as your hips, making it hollow for full release.
• Go outside and site in the grass with your socks off.
• Visualize growing roots out of your butt and your feet, into the earth, feel the roots bringing nourishment back into your body from the earth.

Phase two: Cleansing

• Visualize a silver shower, rinsing away any energy that is not supporting you.
• Sit in the sun and take in the warmth allowing it to release any energy that is not supporting you.
• Rub your hands together and then pull them apart just an inch. Feel the energy surging between them, then use your hands to wipe off any energetic debris.

Phase three: Filling in

• Imagine a huge, golden sun above your head, calling all your energy from all directions in time back into it and then draining the golden energy into the top of your head, into your entire body and space around you.
• Feel the spark of divine light in your belly button and allow it to expand and fill in your body and space around you.
• Notice a source of light above your head, allow that light to shine into your body and the space around you.

Phase four: Shielding

• Imagine a rose in front of you, representing your energy, just outside your space. Ground it to the center of the earth and let it collect up all the energy of the world and process it for you.
• Surround yourself with white light.
• Use hematite jewelry or some other material that represents protection for you and allow it to shield your energy throughout the day.

Share you techniques with us on Facebook. If you have had an energy bath with me, share with us how that helped you in your daily life and give your insights on how your attention to this fact can help you going forward.