Insightful Inspirations

Everyone has had a song stuck in their head at one point or another. These songs even seem contagious. Someone mentioned a line from a catchy tune or sings it under their breath and the next think you know it, it is stuck in your head. It is referred to as an earworm, here is where urban dictionary defines it. There are all kinds of interesting studies about this and the brain. Dartmouth University found out that our brain will even fill in the gaps, energetically, even when the song stops playing. There are all kinds of things you can read about this topic. Here is a New York Times article about it.

But if our brain will fill in the gaps on songs, where else is it filling in the blanks. My observation is that our energy systems will try and predict things in order to save energy in creating a new response. So if you get triggered in this behavior, even if it is different than the last time you experienced it, your body and mind will go to the path it has already traveled first, unless it is required to change course. This means that if you normally are defensive when receiving feedback about something, you will tend to always turn there first, before hearing the feedback.

Have you ever stressed about something you have experienced as bad in the past, expecting it to be bad again as this similar experience approaches? Then you stress, prepare and try and control your response to the upcoming badness, only to find out that there was nothing to worry about?

Awareness to these stuck energies is key to changing your experiences with the world. Just because it was bad once, doesn’t always make it bad. That bad song is just stuck in your head. See if you can attract different experiences, just by becoming aware of that stuck song.

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Do you have a mantra stuck in your head about something or someone? “This always happens to me.” or “I can never get paid what I am worth.” or ‘Men or Women are always so ____.” That song is stuck in your head and you will fill in the blanks by attracting those experiences that validate that tape. See if you can replace that tape with something else. That is what Louise Hay of Hay House always tries to do, give you new mantras to say over and over. Replacing those tapes.  See if you can identify a tape that you want to replace. Put a new mantra on a sticky note where you can see it and use it in place of the old one. Then see what shifts.

As promised, there were a few topics requested that I add for the Oracle deck. So this is the last one. Completion.

We have all heard the saying “every end is a new beginning”. But what does that mean exactly? There are some things in life you can’t have until you have a free hand, which means you have to let go of something else. Things like relationships, jobs, and home, typically (for most of us) runs in ones and twos. So you can’t have the next house until you sell the old house, or you can’t have the next relationship until you end the current one.

Seagull taken by Freeman Mester

We often resist change because we are so wrapped up in the loss of letting something go and we don’t yet know what it will be replaced with. We fear it will never be this good again. We are afraid of the possibility that this is as good as it gets and it can only go down from here. When we allow ourselves to dream of the future and trust miracles are coming, we open ourselves up to the gifts of the universe. When we fear we close ourselves off and keep ourselves trapped in a cycle of loss.

It is like a bird flying for the first time. The nest is cozy and safe, but letting go of the nest is important for the bird’s survival and eventually, they just take off and fly.

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What phase is coming to a close for you right now? Are you letting it end, or are you clinging to like a lead anchor? What can you do to support yourself in letting go of that phase and coming into the new phase? What are your fears behind this end? What are your hopes and dreams? Let yourself imagine and expect the best. You are ready for clarity and new adventures.

I am writing a guidebook for an Oracle deck. Something I was doing as a fun project. I sent the book to someone to review and she suggested a couple of cards to add in. And as with all the other cards in the deck, the inspirations were first born on the blog. So I am going to do the same for these topics. The first one being savoring things.

As we rush through our lives we often don’t stop to notice and enjoy the good things in life. We are rushing ourselves through the experiences to hurry up to the next one. What are we rushing to? Something we would find more enjoyable than this moment. We are seeking  moment in time where we feel fulfilled, full and happy. But if we never stop to savor where we are, we never find the things that help us feel that way. This is basically like running on a hamster wheel.

If we stop and enjoy the tastes, the smells, the moments, we will begin to notice we are already full. We are already the exact experience we need to  and there is nowhere to rush to. When we savor moments it slows things down, softens them and makes them lighter. Go ahead, give it a try.

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Savor the moment. Find something really good about today and hold on to it. Relish in it. Feel it in every cell of your body. Let yourself be nourished by the gifts around you. Calm your energy with this pause and notice how it clarifies and tones your perspective, not just about what you are savoring right now, but about everything else as well.

If you are into any metaphysical stuff, you will often hear about the ego. Most of the time the ego is pointed out as something to let go of, something NOT to live your life through. But I personally think that is impossible for most of us. It isn’t the point for us yet.

I read this book called “The Rascal’s Guide to Enlightenment” by Mat-zo the unleavened one. You can tell by the title and author’s name it is a funny one. Anyway in his book he has a “I love my Ego Rebuild Kit”. It says something along the lines of if you have ruined your ego through too much enlightenment work, use this rebuilding kit to fix it up. It is a pretty funny book. I recommend it to anyone.

My point is that everything is about balance. As I watch children grow, I see their ego forming. It is part of development. Without it, we would miss an important part of our lessons in life. As always it is just about balance. We don’t want to run the world with our egos out of whack because then we forget that we aren’t the center of the universe and right about everything.

Sonia Choquette, one of my favorite authors and psychics said this about the ego in an interview. “Every human being has had some experience of guidance. That is not our challenge. Our challenge is: Will our ego humble enough to acknowledge that there is more than the ego running the world and the experience of the human journey through life?”

I don’t think it is about blowing the ego away. But it is about using our consciousness to bring it all into balance. I believe when we aren’t in a body, our ego goes away, so just like our bodies, we have a limited time to experiment with it.

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This week, check in with your ego. What state is it in? Is it bruised, defensive, puffed up? How much say does it have in your life? Is it balanced with everything else you do? Can you tell the difference between your ego and your higher self? Are you able to have humility and see things differently than before?

As always, you are welcome to share your thoughts.

What is the first thing you do when you hurt your hand? You shake it and rub it. That is your natural response to disperse the excess energy that caused the pain to begin with. Shaking actually helps release energy and restore you to a more natural state.

You can use this concept for other things in your life. If you are struggling with a situation that hit you quickly and you felt unprepared, give it some time and think about healthy ways to shake off the energy. Some examples of how you might shake off the energy include exercise, talking to a friend, meditating, or expressing emotion. If you don’t shake off the energy, it piles up on you and makes the next situation feel all that more overwhelming.

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Shake it off. For the situations that are impacting you this week, consciously shake off the energy in a way you find enjoyable. You already do this naturally, but by bringing awareness to it, you are enhancing its healing affects. Try this visualization. Visualize a tree that represents you, covered in snow, representing the energy of the situation.  This tree has so much snow on it that its branches are bending and are overwhelmed. Now imagine shaking that tree. Allowing all the snow to fall off those branches, popping up the branches back into their strong, unburdened state.

Wikipedia describes Tickle Torture as the use of tickling to abuse or dominate someone. The victim laughs although the experience is unpleasant because the laughter is an innate reflex rather than social conditioning. I thought this was a great idea to blog about. The concept of having a pleasure response (here it is laughing) as a reflex. What other responses are just reflexes?

It is different for everyone, but I do think we have automatic responses to certain stimulus, depending on our complex make up of personality, genetics, background, gender, etc. Emotions can and do go beyond just social conditioning. Can we train ourselves to remove the reflex and have more intentional reactions. Of course we can, but first we have to recognize our reflex first. The automatic responses we have to things feel necessary and we will defend them at every chance. But if we start to realize we aren’t responding to the outside world as much as we are responding to the inside world, we might give ourselves a little more time in the reflex process and eventually change it all together.

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Pay attention to your reflex emotions this week. Times when you respond quickly and without thinking in an automatic fashion. Because it is a reflex, the initial attention will come after you have already been in the moment. But notice if it was appropriate for you to respond that strongly or with that particular emotion. Or is it automatic because of the person or situation? Did you get the full wisdom of those feelings or did it feel automatic? The mindfulness of these moments give us wisdom to see how our thoughts, actions and reflexes affect our lives, more so than the world around us. It is possible you will still like to keep your emotional response as it is, but just being aware of it, gives you new wisdom within yourself to tap into.

We play with our energy so unconsciously sometimes we don’t even know what we are doing until it’s done. It is like eating half a pint of ice cream before noticing! Now think what that would do to your hips (or thighs, or where ever you prefer to put on weight). Same goes for not taking in enough food. If you are too busy to eat all of the time, you will get too thin to be healthy.

The same thing is happening to your energy field. Without proper exercise, maintenance, and awareness we all get energetically out of whack. Putting too much burden on our energy systems or too little.

Like you body type, the amount of energy you actually need is different for everyone. Some people are naturally heavy and some naturally light and where you store that energy differs too. But the point is that you can manage a healthy energetic weight by bring awareness to it.

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Get yourself on a healthy energy plan. Find time to connect with yourself, play with your energy or exercise it and pay attention to when you are unconsciously taking on too much or too little. Think of it like a meal and plan for it. Work with it, move it, become friends with it. You can get involved in the more complicated techniques to balance your chakras and aura, if you have the time and energy. But you would be better off spending a little time with yourself every day than trying to cram in a completely new way of living all at once and then quit all together. Just like a diet.

One of the worst energy busters I see is people’s negative self talk. The questioning, doubting and then berating if and when something doesn’t go as planned.  Sometimes it gets so bad, the person gets frozen in their ability to make decisions. Who wants to make a decision if you are just going to get beat up for it later?

The negative self talk is present in every one I have ever read for. The energetic blocks get bigger depending on how often you do it and what else you are telling yourself.  So it is always good to be aware of how often you do it and then make a note to shift the energy into a different way of thinking. For example, let say every time you try on clothes to buy you say to yourself “I am so fat!” Trying on clothes becomes a torturous process and no longer an enjoyable thing. Then the clothes you are currently in possession of become negative too, until you are just feeling completely miserable every time you get dressed or look in the mirror.  How awful! No lets say the next time you make a pact with yourself to go buy clothes without talking to yourself that way. You catch yourself saying to yourself “I am so fat.” Then you notice, shift the statement and restate to yourself “I would really like to work on this part of my body so I can love it more.” You don’t have to lie and say “I love my body” just restate things.

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Check in with your mental chatter. The conversations you have with yourself about situations. This can be about anything. For example past choices, what you said to someone, how you are doing something.  Are you are sending discouraging demeaning thoughts to yourself?  Take note that this statement is backfiring in your life somewhere. It is creating an energy pattern of this negativity that is going to show up again and again, until you shift this pattern. You are attracting things in your life to support that negative thinking. Send yourself loving supportive thoughts so that the energy you bring back to yourself represents this feeling. Love yourself first.

Yes, it is true history repeats itself. Why? Because we are playing out energetic patterns or reality we have implanted in our unconsciousness. We attract the same bad job, relationship, friends, etc. (or good ones) because of how we connect with that pattern of relationships. We have energetic signs of how we want to be treated and attract people and situations in our lives that fill that request.

So what if you keep attracting something you don’t like? Wake up to it. Pay attention to what lesson you are trying to learn by presenting yourself with this situation over and over. Thank yourself for being persistent (rather than beating yourself up for not getting it) and work with it. With loving acceptance that you WANT to face this issue on some level, or you wouldn’t keep providing yourself the opportunity. Yes you are that powerful.

The trick is to notice this pattern in all areas of your life. If you have a relationship issue where you keep attracting unavailable people into your life, notice what else you do this with. Maybe you attract unavailable job desires, unavailable friends, maybe you are even unavailable to yourself.

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Notice the patterns that are playing out in your life that are no longer serving you. Ask your higher self to show you these patterns in a new light, so that you can learn your lesson and release it from your life. Then notice what comes up. Where this pattern shows up. Sometimes the pattern even shows up in other people so you can see it outside of yourself. You just have to pay attention. Break the pattern by getting what it is trying to teach you, not by trying to “break a bad habit”. Embrace the pattern rather than pushing it away, learn from it, and let it go.