Insightful Inspirations

Sometimes I find that we have trouble being decisive. People often call me to help them make a decision. I try to careful not to tell them what to do or how to do it… that is their choice to make. But walking that line of giving enough information that might help them tap into their own clarity better and make decisions with confidence and ease. Decisions seem to be a constant dilemma we all deal with in our lives.

Making decisions isn’t always easy, but my guides are always telling me that we give it too much credit. We are just choosing what experience we would like to have, nothing more. Why do we fret over things as if they are life or death then? Our egos! Making a decision and moving forward with it without looking back or regretting it later is a huge gift you can give yourself. It helps you be present rather than always looking into the past and future about what you did or didn’t do right or wrong.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Work on being decisive this week. Make decisions and move forward with them. Notice when you are judging yourself about them or trying to control the outcome of them. See if you can let that go. If not, ask yourself why you are getting hung up there. What are you really afraid of? What do you need to make you feel okay with this decision? How can you give that to yourself? As doubt and fears come up, notice. This is your key to the things blocking you from what you want. Work with it with love and see how this shifts your energy. As always, I encourage you to share your ideas on this with me and others on my facebook page.  

There is more to life than worry but some days it sure doesn’t feel like it does it? Sometime we are consumed with ourselves. The what ifs, the if onlys and the why mes! We just can’t help ourselves sometimes. We use everything around us to validate our victim state rather than validate our success. We have trouble just being satisfied with status quo. We have been taught status quo is BAD!

Status quo isn’tbad. It is just status quo… nothing more, nothing less. Wikipedia defines it as “current or existing state of affairs”. Aka the present moment, how things are, or NOW. Spiritual advisers since the beginning of time have been telling us the happiness is in the now, so  in other words, happiness is in status quo. Maintaining status quo is really what we have labeled as bad and the funny thing is, it is impossible to maintain status quo. It is always changing, moment to moment, even if you held you breath and sat still would be different because the earth is moving, you heart is beating, your stomach is working as so on. Maintaining status quo is impossible, so why are we so afraid of it. We are so afraid we aren’t moving in the right direction we start creating directions we “might”  move into to worry about. Stuff that hasn’t happened yet, yet we are trying to plan for it just in case it does which ironically makes it happen!

I did a reading today that actually was telling her she could move in a new direction, but if she chose not to, she can look around and expect more of the same. I think that is what we label bad. If we don’t like what we see, we don’t want it to stay the same. We want it to change. But if we don’t like what we see we fear change because we are afraid of creating more of the same or WORSE! If we could just get moving and not have any expectations on all of it, we would save ourselves a lot of mental anguish and bring in new experiences, for good or bad… but never dull!

Insightful Inspiration of the week

Accept status quo. Status quo is serving you up a dose of just what you need. Embrace it! Swallow it whole and then keep moving forward. Release yourself from the expectation that you SHOULD be somewhere different or things will be better WHEN something happens. Right now, life is as you have created it. Look around, use it as a shopping experience. Focus on what you want more of and go from there. Congratulations! You have come so far on your growth. The majority of your suffering has passed. Make a mental note of where you are now and know the next path is still unwritten there is more joy to have than pain. Bring it on by firmly planting your feet on all you have already built and allowing the next thing to come as it will with or without your worries.

Since it is Thanksgiving here in the US, I am taking the obvious route here. This week you Insightful Inspiration is simple… gratitude! I have been posting every day this month (since I got the idea from someone else to do it) something I am grateful for that day. It is a great practice that many spiritual teachers promote. It reminds you to be positive and aligns you with greater things in your life. It brings you into present moment too, which allows you to gather up your energy to manifest in the direction you want.

See if you can write down five things you are truely grateful for, every day for a week. Share on the Insightful Inspiration Facebook page if you want, it is always great to see other’s gratitude too, to remind you of what you have.

I am thankful for everyone who gives me their energy to read my blogs. I hope you find them useful!

Are you a slave to your comfort? Perhaps you would like to try something new, but it is uncomfortable. People tend to get very comfy in one spot or another and then don’t want to move on to the next place. It is like a bird who never leaves the nest to do an amazing thing, fly. If the bird stayed where it was comfortable and known, they would never experience the world. However, we as people often get so afraid to leave the nest, we keep ourselves from living the amazing life we have ahead of us.

Maybe we have convinced ourselves that we “have to” do it this way or that. Maybe we get stuck on a career path, that we don’t feel equipt to abandon or a new hobby we think the other people doing are already better at and don’t need us newbies to intrude. But the truth is, no one can bring to the table what you do. What ever path you have chosen to take is a unique one, that you can bring into your next steps. For example, lets say you are a nurse and you have been entertaining ideas of being a computer programmer. Completely unqualified? Maybe, but maybe the computer software that is being used for nurses and doctors could be improved by your background in the field. Maybe the way you learned to do things in the nursing field will help people do things better in the computer field. You never know until you try! We are judging our ability to contribute, when the truth is, we can ALWAYS contribute. Just because our perspective and background is unique and brings new ways of looking at things.

We don’t always want to try something new, because it is uncharted waters. It is places no one has ever been and we may fail. But without the unknown, we never grow, experience and expand who we are. Which is what we really want, so why do we get so stuck?

Insightful Inspiration of the Week

Is there something new you have been avoiding trying because you doubt your ability to do it? Is there a path you tell people you “would do” if you were someone else with different circumstances? Well, this week, you should try and get out there and do it! Just give it a try. Notice what “buts” and “ifs” come up while you plan it out and use that as a way to understand yourself fuller and move forward. Even it is something small. Try something new. It will bring you great satisfaction whether you succeed or fail because it is moving you closer to yourself.

There is one thing that overwhelmingly comes up in the healings I do for other people… People can not be moved into a place they are not ready for. I can try and heal them, clear them, advise them and tell them their likely path but it won’t help them be somewhere they aren’t. It merely supports them to be where they are. So why bother?  Because you can’t go anywhere until you are somewhere. When I offer a healing to someone, I am offering them grounding, presence and the ability to have more of the NOW.

What does this mean? It means that most of the time we spend trying to propel ourselves forward to some place other than where we are. We are always on the go, moving towards news goals, executing plans and “improving” ourselves. But if we never stop to enjoy where we are, we are always chasing our tails. We can’t put ourselves in alignment with our highest good,  unless we take time to notice what that even is. This is the real reason a lot of spiritual practices talk about being still and meditating or praying. It is because most of us don’t slow down long enough to listen to ourselves and just be.

I am not saying stop moving forward and setting goals. What I am saying is to try and be grateful for where you are first. This gives you a sense of direction. If you don’t first notice where you are, you can’t get up enough energy to go where you want. It is like looking at a map for directions without knowing where you are. It is all just random roads and landmarks that mean nothing.

Insightful Inspiration of the Week

Notice where you are. Be with that feeling and send gratitude towards it. When you are setting goals this week, first map out where you have come to. List out your accomplishments, your amazing life and notice where you are now. Are you fed? Are you warm? Are you in clothes that you like and picked out from a closet of clothes?  Your life is amazing no matter where you are at. Bring yourself fully into that amazing part of yourself and the only place you will choose to go on the map from here is to more amazing places. If you are directly conscious efforts to where you are, you will have more awareness of where you are going and make choices about those directions.

You are not in complete control, but that is the fun part! You never know what is coming next, but once it does you can just be with it.

It is great to set goals and make visions for the future, but this week, try and focus on where you are, not where you want to go. Even if you can only do it for a few minutes a day. As always, you are encouraged to share!

So often we spend our lives trying to fit in and conform to what people say they want from us. Most of the time, when we give people what they say they want, they still aren’t happy. Why? Because what they really want is US, not some version of ourselves, modified to try and please them. The people who can not handle us in our true, authentic form, are not meant to be in our lives. Why do we force this so much? Most of it is just training from childhood. You are better off being liked. You will be more successful if you are liked. Seriously, there is even a book out there called “How to win friends and influence people.”

Now this is true to an extent. You probably don’t want to go around making enemies. However, sacrificing who you are in order to be something good to everyone doesn’t work either. This is especially true in your professional lives. No matter what you do. My guides have been telling me this message for awhile now. I am finally getting it myself. Yes goingt o school, training yourself, learning how to do things is important. But it doesn’t stop there. You authentic twist on the topic is what makes it your gift.

Think about it. Doctors all go to school and get taught roughly the same thing. That does NOT make all doctors equal. The ones who add their personal touch to their business are typically the ones that people most enjoy. This goes for anything. Our personal touches is what makes our service to the world unique. If you can’t authentically add you personal touch to what you do, perhaps you should look for a place in life where you can add your personal touch.

Insightful Inspirations for the Week

Where are you conforming? What are you putting out there to other people? Is it you, or a version of you that you think people want to see? How do you know they wouldn’t like the real you better? You business may need that extra spark you have been hold back on giving. What are you afraid of in relation to being 100% you? Can you move past those fears and do it any way.

Pick one thing you know you are holding your authenticity back from. Look at it clearly and see if you can bring more of yourself into that activity. Pay close attention to what comes up when you try and do this. Sometimes it takes practice. It takes time to see that people won’t react as harshly as you thought they would. No one is as hard on you as you are.

Once you start adding your personal secret ingredient, things will flow easier. You will be more successful with it. You will even enjoy it more!  Give it a try and share your story.

A lot of people are going through the unemployment and divorce life crisis right now. Both of which can leave you feeling rejected and unwanted. There are periods in our life when we feel like people only like us for what we can give them, not because they authentically like us. We are angry because we feel used and alone in our most vulnerable times of need.

Yes, I am going to say, even this is for a reason. There are several things going on here. First, sometimes we established relationships with people based on something we give them and when we want to test the relationship by taking that thing away, we are shocked to find the relationship falls apart. For example, new jobs. You go into the interview, probably promising your devotion, hard work and endless talent. You get the job, then kill yourself for months working hard to prove yourself. Then the steam starts to run out and you realize what you did was over promise your love and over do your expectation setting on the level of work you could sustain long term. You blew your wad, if it were. Then your work quality starts to go down, although it might be more reasonable, it isn’t what you promised originally and your employer is feeling annoyed. You feel like “what the heck, I have been killing myself for this person”. Yeah… and that is what they began to expect! You could apply this to your friendships, your relationships, anything. Did you promise something you couldn’t sustain. Why didn’t you just promise what you could authentically do in the first place and accept that that is enough? You would have been better off to be rejected in the first place, then burn out your energy trying to be somewhere you don’t fit.

Another scenario is that sometimes we are meant to be alone to work through some things. Although right now, all we want in the world is someone to hold us and tell us it will be okay, that person isn’t there for a reason. You are meant to deal with things alone so you face them and work through them in your own energy. Other people will put “fix it” energy in our space in a time we need to just  be with something and so sometimes we need space, even if we don’t want it.

My point is, realize that every scenario is not a punishment to victimize you (yet again) in the world. It is there to teach you about your authentic, powerful self and highlight the beliefs and situations that you give your power to. It is there to help you stand tall in your own space, no matter what. You can use this rejected energy to curl up in a ball and feel sorry for yourself, or you can put that energy into healing your fears and self worth issues that have brought you here in the first place, so that you can go to new places in the future and not replay old patterns.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Embrace every moment as a teaching, healing moment. Where do you feel rejected? (even in the slightest) What is coming up in this rejection? Do you feel alone? Abused? Used? Under valued? Why is this a bad feeling for you? Is this true? Are you really being abused, used, under valued? If you are, why are you allowing that to happen? How is that serving you? Are you getting false acceptance from this behavior? Maybe you would like to change it but don’t know how. It is okay, just notice it for now and that you want to do something different. Keep that awareness and see how things shift. If you aren’t feeling abused, etc. then why are you letting yourself get worked up about it? Is it keeping you from looking at the real issue for yourself?

Allow every moment, no matter how hard, to be a moment of reflection for yourself. Rather than resist it and try to get out of it, embrace it. Let it teach you. You are already suffering, why not get some value out of it. It is like sitting in a laundry mat waiting for your clothes to dry, might as well do something valuable, like read that book you haven’t gotten around to, while you are there. Why waste a good opportunity to learn.

Happy healing.

The law of attraction talks about the fact that what is in your life is what you have attracted into your life by magnetizing yourself to it. All other things are not in match with your vibration. But how do you get in alignment with that vibration is the big question of having more of what you want out of life.  “How?!” is a very popular question I get from my clients. “I get what I am suppose to do, but HOW do I do it?” A lot of times it is hard to get out from where you are, because where you are is what you know. It is the reason poverty, abuse, alcoholism, etc. runs in families. Despite your effort to vibrate away from the patter, it is what they know and it is hard to vibrate to something you don’t, even if you consciously try.

It is about changing your perspective of where you are at, not a trap you are in, but a gift of clarity on some issue. Work where you are at first, consciously acknowledging what you have and who you are and what is standing in your way of letting it be different. Acknowledge yourself and your belief system. I had a friend say “I don’t have  cancer, YET.” EEK! She acknowledged that she believes she believes she is susceptible to cancer and that her thoughts about this, might just attract it to her. But how does she change that belief, when she really believes it? She could pretend she doesn’t believe it, but she still does!  Rather than trying to change her belief just by switching it off, she should see how this belief is serving her. Maybe it helps her feel like she is in control of her fears because she acknowledges them. Maybe it helps her feel more aware of her body, because she is keeping an eye on the risk factors. In some way this belief is serving her. If she could service that need in another way, she could let go of the belief.

Another thing to consider is what you believe has a lot to do with who and where you are right now. But if you lived in a different city, worked a different joy, had a different set of relationships, this would impact your perspective on your life.  This is why people talk about getting away from it all to “get perspective”. It truly does help to step back and view things from another angle. You can do this without going to another country by the way, but sometimes new cultures and ways of living do help!

Insightful Inspirations for the week

See if you can seek out a new perspective on something this week. Pick a topic you know is no longer serving you but you can’t let go of. Then just observe it. Rather than trying to change it, look at it from different angles. Ask yourself what need is being fulfilled here. (trust me there is one or you wouldn’t do it) Will you service that need in a different way? What would your life had been like up until now if you hadn’t thought this way? (thinking all the way back to childhood) What would you life be like with out it.

Create some space for this belief by stepping away from it anyway you can. People who support it, situations that reinforce the belief. Take a vacation from it, if only for an hour. Let yourself be an observer of it, rather than living IN it.

Then share with me what happened! Did it work? Did you change your perspective on it? Maybe at the end of it all you decide you still want it or maybe it just shifts on its own. Either Way, by observing it, you change your relationship with it and get to have it be more of what you want out of it.

Have an enlightened week.

Okay, we have all heard the phrase “There is nothing to fear by fear itself.” But doesn’t it seem like a life long process to get past our fears. It starts when we are babies and continues through our life, dictating our actions and keeping us stuck in the search for peace from it. If you think you are fearless, please share in the comments, I would love to hear your story.

Of course, the path I have chosen I am always healing, clearing, allowing, embracing, etc. All of that new agey stuff. But what most blocks in our ability to manifest boils down to is fear. Fear of something… maybe not always obvious, that is keeping us from having what we think we want. For some reason we fear having it. For example, most of us would love an abundance of money, so why don’t we all have the abundance of money? Some people fear having money means people will only like them for this side of themselves and want to be loved authentically. Other people fear that having money means you stole it from someone else in some underhanded way. Even more people don’t believe they deserve large amounts of money because no one around them seems to have it. Either way… this is all fear. Fear, keeping you for allowing something into your life.

The reason I am blogging about this topic is because I get gentle reminders from the universe all the time on things that I think I have let go of the fear of. One of my fears (based on a past-life) is around taking medication. It could be herbs even. I have a serious aversion to it and even feel like I am dying for the first few days I start something new. I know this about myself, so I don’t run around like a crazy person claiming I am dying, but I sure have to work on releasing it and allowing it to go through me. I took a short cut on my healing with a sinus/ear thing I had going on and went on antibiotics. I choose to fulfill my obligations to family and life rather than honor my body’s wish to lay in bed and clear myself for a week or so. Ironically enough, I am teaching a class on this in a couple of weeks call Creating Mind Body Unity where we will talk about these choices further.

I mustered up the courage to take these pills, despite reading all of the horrible, possible side effects. I had conquered this fear! So far, six days in, I am okay. However, I ran into a mom at my kids school who tells me about her husband being very sick (he is better now) with drug induced hepatitis and having to have his gallbladder removed. She tells me the story and then of course I have to ask, “what medication was he on”. EEK! It OF COURSE was the same drug I am taking and she then tells me the horror stories about this drug. This poked at the deep seated fear inside of me so hard I couldn’t concentrate!  This showed me I clearly hadn’t processed all of the fear within me yet. If I had, I wouldn’t have hardly noticed this conversation. Honestly, I probably wouldn’t even have had it, as the universe always brings me what I need to hear. So back to the awareness board on this one.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

What are you afraid of, little or big? How is it limiting your life? It may even been the fear of success or having money as we discussed above. It might be fear of having a good relationship. 

Take a moment to think one of your fears through. Journal about it or meditate on it. What is the fear? How long have you had it? Can you trace it back to a past experience that happened (that isn’t happening now by the way)? What is the worst thing that could happen if your fear manifested? (we often do manifest our fears just to face them head on) What is the best thing that could happen if your fear manifested? Give yourself permission to notice this fear this week. Not with the intention of letting go of it, but just to be aware of how much it is involved in your daily life. Just by observing it, you can change your relationship to it.

Share your stories. You might help someone else change their life!

Have a mindful week!