Insightful Inspirations

Everyone has had a song stuck in their head at one point or another. These songs even seem contagious. Someone mentioned a line from a catchy tune or sings it under their breath and the next think you know it, it is stuck in your head. It is referred to as an earworm, here is where urban dictionary defines it. There are all kinds of interesting studies about this and the brain. Dartmouth University found out that our brain will even fill in the gaps, energetically, even when the song stops playing. There are all kinds of things you can read about this topic. Here is a New York Times article about it.

But if our brain will fill in the gaps on songs, where else is it filling in the blanks. My observation is that our energy systems will try and predict things in order to save energy in creating a new response. So if you get triggered in this behavior, even if it is different than the last time you experienced it, your body and mind will go to the path it has already traveled first, unless it is required to change course. This means that if you normally are defensive when receiving feedback about something, you will tend to always turn there first, before hearing the feedback.

Have you ever stressed about something you have experienced as bad in the past, expecting it to be bad again as this similar experience approaches? Then you stress, prepare and try and control your response to the upcoming badness, only to find out that there was nothing to worry about?

Awareness to these stuck energies is key to changing your experiences with the world. Just because it was bad once, doesn’t always make it bad. That bad song is just stuck in your head. See if you can attract different experiences, just by becoming aware of that stuck song.

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Do you have a mantra stuck in your head about something or someone? “This always happens to me.” or “I can never get paid what I am worth.” or ‘Men or Women are always so ____.” That song is stuck in your head and you will fill in the blanks by attracting those experiences that validate that tape. See if you can replace that tape with something else. That is what Louise Hay of Hay House always tries to do, give you new mantras to say over and over. Replacing those tapes.  See if you can identify a tape that you want to replace. Put a new mantra on a sticky note where you can see it and use it in place of the old one. Then see what shifts.

As promised, there were a few topics requested that I add for the Oracle deck. So this is the last one. Completion.

We have all heard the saying “every end is a new beginning”. But what does that mean exactly? There are some things in life you can’t have until you have a free hand, which means you have to let go of something else. Things like relationships, jobs, and home, typically (for most of us) runs in ones and twos. So you can’t have the next house until you sell the old house, or you can’t have the next relationship until you end the current one.

Seagull taken by Freeman Mester

We often resist change because we are so wrapped up in the loss of letting something go and we don’t yet know what it will be replaced with. We fear it will never be this good again. We are afraid of the possibility that this is as good as it gets and it can only go down from here. When we allow ourselves to dream of the future and trust miracles are coming, we open ourselves up to the gifts of the universe. When we fear we close ourselves off and keep ourselves trapped in a cycle of loss.

It is like a bird flying for the first time. The nest is cozy and safe, but letting go of the nest is important for the bird’s survival and eventually, they just take off and fly.

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What phase is coming to a close for you right now? Are you letting it end, or are you clinging to like a lead anchor? What can you do to support yourself in letting go of that phase and coming into the new phase? What are your fears behind this end? What are your hopes and dreams? Let yourself imagine and expect the best. You are ready for clarity and new adventures.

One of the worst energy busters I see is people’s negative self talk. The questioning, doubting and then berating if and when something doesn’t go as planned.  Sometimes it gets so bad, the person gets frozen in their ability to make decisions. Who wants to make a decision if you are just going to get beat up for it later?

The negative self talk is present in every one I have ever read for. The energetic blocks get bigger depending on how often you do it and what else you are telling yourself.  So it is always good to be aware of how often you do it and then make a note to shift the energy into a different way of thinking. For example, let say every time you try on clothes to buy you say to yourself “I am so fat!” Trying on clothes becomes a torturous process and no longer an enjoyable thing. Then the clothes you are currently in possession of become negative too, until you are just feeling completely miserable every time you get dressed or look in the mirror.  How awful! No lets say the next time you make a pact with yourself to go buy clothes without talking to yourself that way. You catch yourself saying to yourself “I am so fat.” Then you notice, shift the statement and restate to yourself “I would really like to work on this part of my body so I can love it more.” You don’t have to lie and say “I love my body” just restate things.

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Check in with your mental chatter. The conversations you have with yourself about situations. This can be about anything. For example past choices, what you said to someone, how you are doing something.  Are you are sending discouraging demeaning thoughts to yourself?  Take note that this statement is backfiring in your life somewhere. It is creating an energy pattern of this negativity that is going to show up again and again, until you shift this pattern. You are attracting things in your life to support that negative thinking. Send yourself loving supportive thoughts so that the energy you bring back to yourself represents this feeling. Love yourself first.

Yes, it is true history repeats itself. Why? Because we are playing out energetic patterns or reality we have implanted in our unconsciousness. We attract the same bad job, relationship, friends, etc. (or good ones) because of how we connect with that pattern of relationships. We have energetic signs of how we want to be treated and attract people and situations in our lives that fill that request.

So what if you keep attracting something you don’t like? Wake up to it. Pay attention to what lesson you are trying to learn by presenting yourself with this situation over and over. Thank yourself for being persistent (rather than beating yourself up for not getting it) and work with it. With loving acceptance that you WANT to face this issue on some level, or you wouldn’t keep providing yourself the opportunity. Yes you are that powerful.

The trick is to notice this pattern in all areas of your life. If you have a relationship issue where you keep attracting unavailable people into your life, notice what else you do this with. Maybe you attract unavailable job desires, unavailable friends, maybe you are even unavailable to yourself.

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Notice the patterns that are playing out in your life that are no longer serving you. Ask your higher self to show you these patterns in a new light, so that you can learn your lesson and release it from your life. Then notice what comes up. Where this pattern shows up. Sometimes the pattern even shows up in other people so you can see it outside of yourself. You just have to pay attention. Break the pattern by getting what it is trying to teach you, not by trying to “break a bad habit”. Embrace the pattern rather than pushing it away, learn from it, and let it go.

Perspective – this is something I have blogged on more than once. The two sides to every story, how you can change your perspective, etc. What is so important about this topic? Dictionary.com provides seven different definitions of perspective. Wikipedia breaks it out into groups, i.e. graphical, visual, cognitive. All of which are relevant to the topic of understanding your place in the world. The one I am going to focus on today is “one’s “point of view”, the choice of a context for opinions, beliefs and experiences”.

In relationships with other people we spend a lot of time trying to see each other’s points of view. Convincing others to see our side of things, trying to understand where they are coming from, etc. But this is my enlightening lesson for you… no matter how hard you try and see another person’s point of view, you are still seeing their point of view from your point of view. It is impossible for you to truly see their point of view. All of their life experiences make them unique to how they perceive things. Scientist have proven this even with identical twins who have lived very similar lives. Their perspectives are still radically different. When I read for couples some times I can decode these perspectives to where they have “aha!” moments about it. It seems to relieve stress in the relationship and help them to accept each other more.

This is important to remind yourself of. Because when you are trying to understand or be understood, there is no right or wrong answer. There is no definative “this is the way things are”. We often spend a lot of energy trying to get to “right” vs. “wrong” but because of perspective this is different for everyone. The best part is, this is OKAY! It is wonderful for each and every one of us to see the world differently. It helps us realize endless possibilities of our human form. Our evolutionary possibilities are endless because we all see things differently!

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Are you spending energy and time trying to understand some one’s point of view or have them understand yours? Step back for a minute from this process. See it for what it is and the possibilities that this is creating. Maybe your significant other wants to spend some money going on vacation and you want to invest it on your house. What are the different points of views bringing to light for both of you. Can you take that wisdom with you as you search for a compromise? Why is the universe presenting you with this difference of opinion? What is it trying to get you to see differently?

Embrace who you are and how you think. This is your gift to the world. Share it with an open mind and open heart and encourage others to do the same.

Love to all of you.  Thanks for reading.

When people come for a session with me they get an energy bath.  I clean off patterns that are not supportive, foreign energy, other people in your space. Etc. This give people the sense of lightness, ease, and peace that helps them stand in their own power.

But it is even more important for everyone to learn good energetic hygiene for themselves. It is like taking a shower or brushing your teeth. You wouldn’t go years without doing that! Yet many of us neglect our energy fields and don’t acknowledge the power it has over how we feel and what we can accomplish.

The problem is none of us were trained to wash our energy. So you might need a little guidance, just to get your conscious mind around what it means to “clean” your energy field. There are books out there that you can get about these topics. There are classes you can take online and in person. The resources are out there and I highly encourage you to use them.

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Establish a daily energetic cleansing technique for yourself and commit to doing it for at least a week. Notice what shifts as you do this. Here are some ideas on what you could do (it doesn’t have to take long). I always encourage you to explore what works for you and come up with your own technique.

Phase one: Grounding

• Visualize a grounding cord from your tail bone, dropping down to the center of the earth and connecting. Then open up as wide as your hips, making it hollow for full release.
• Go outside and site in the grass with your socks off.
• Visualize growing roots out of your butt and your feet, into the earth, feel the roots bringing nourishment back into your body from the earth.

Phase two: Cleansing

• Visualize a silver shower, rinsing away any energy that is not supporting you.
• Sit in the sun and take in the warmth allowing it to release any energy that is not supporting you.
• Rub your hands together and then pull them apart just an inch. Feel the energy surging between them, then use your hands to wipe off any energetic debris.

Phase three: Filling in

• Imagine a huge, golden sun above your head, calling all your energy from all directions in time back into it and then draining the golden energy into the top of your head, into your entire body and space around you.
• Feel the spark of divine light in your belly button and allow it to expand and fill in your body and space around you.
• Notice a source of light above your head, allow that light to shine into your body and the space around you.

Phase four: Shielding

• Imagine a rose in front of you, representing your energy, just outside your space. Ground it to the center of the earth and let it collect up all the energy of the world and process it for you.
• Surround yourself with white light.
• Use hematite jewelry or some other material that represents protection for you and allow it to shield your energy throughout the day.

Share you techniques with us on Facebook. If you have had an energy bath with me, share with us how that helped you in your daily life and give your insights on how your attention to this fact can help you going forward.

Sometimes I find that we have trouble being decisive. People often call me to help them make a decision. I try to careful not to tell them what to do or how to do it… that is their choice to make. But walking that line of giving enough information that might help them tap into their own clarity better and make decisions with confidence and ease. Decisions seem to be a constant dilemma we all deal with in our lives.

Making decisions isn’t always easy, but my guides are always telling me that we give it too much credit. We are just choosing what experience we would like to have, nothing more. Why do we fret over things as if they are life or death then? Our egos! Making a decision and moving forward with it without looking back or regretting it later is a huge gift you can give yourself. It helps you be present rather than always looking into the past and future about what you did or didn’t do right or wrong.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Work on being decisive this week. Make decisions and move forward with them. Notice when you are judging yourself about them or trying to control the outcome of them. See if you can let that go. If not, ask yourself why you are getting hung up there. What are you really afraid of? What do you need to make you feel okay with this decision? How can you give that to yourself? As doubt and fears come up, notice. This is your key to the things blocking you from what you want. Work with it with love and see how this shifts your energy. As always, I encourage you to share your ideas on this with me and others on my facebook page.  

There is more to life than worry but some days it sure doesn’t feel like it does it? Sometime we are consumed with ourselves. The what ifs, the if onlys and the why mes! We just can’t help ourselves sometimes. We use everything around us to validate our victim state rather than validate our success. We have trouble just being satisfied with status quo. We have been taught status quo is BAD!

Status quo isn’tbad. It is just status quo… nothing more, nothing less. Wikipedia defines it as “current or existing state of affairs”. Aka the present moment, how things are, or NOW. Spiritual advisers since the beginning of time have been telling us the happiness is in the now, so  in other words, happiness is in status quo. Maintaining status quo is really what we have labeled as bad and the funny thing is, it is impossible to maintain status quo. It is always changing, moment to moment, even if you held you breath and sat still would be different because the earth is moving, you heart is beating, your stomach is working as so on. Maintaining status quo is impossible, so why are we so afraid of it. We are so afraid we aren’t moving in the right direction we start creating directions we “might”  move into to worry about. Stuff that hasn’t happened yet, yet we are trying to plan for it just in case it does which ironically makes it happen!

I did a reading today that actually was telling her she could move in a new direction, but if she chose not to, she can look around and expect more of the same. I think that is what we label bad. If we don’t like what we see, we don’t want it to stay the same. We want it to change. But if we don’t like what we see we fear change because we are afraid of creating more of the same or WORSE! If we could just get moving and not have any expectations on all of it, we would save ourselves a lot of mental anguish and bring in new experiences, for good or bad… but never dull!

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Accept status quo. Status quo is serving you up a dose of just what you need. Embrace it! Swallow it whole and then keep moving forward. Release yourself from the expectation that you SHOULD be somewhere different or things will be better WHEN something happens. Right now, life is as you have created it. Look around, use it as a shopping experience. Focus on what you want more of and go from there. Congratulations! You have come so far on your growth. The majority of your suffering has passed. Make a mental note of where you are now and know the next path is still unwritten there is more joy to have than pain. Bring it on by firmly planting your feet on all you have already built and allowing the next thing to come as it will with or without your worries.

Since it is Thanksgiving here in the US, I am taking the obvious route here. This week you Insightful Inspiration is simple… gratitude! I have been posting every day this month (since I got the idea from someone else to do it) something I am grateful for that day. It is a great practice that many spiritual teachers promote. It reminds you to be positive and aligns you with greater things in your life. It brings you into present moment too, which allows you to gather up your energy to manifest in the direction you want.

See if you can write down five things you are truely grateful for, every day for a week. Share on the Insightful Inspiration Facebook page if you want, it is always great to see other’s gratitude too, to remind you of what you have.

I am thankful for everyone who gives me their energy to read my blogs. I hope you find them useful!