Insightful Inspirations

A lot of people are going through the unemployment and divorce life crisis right now. Both of which can leave you feeling rejected and unwanted. There are periods in our life when we feel like people only like us for what we can give them, not because they authentically like us. We are angry because we feel used and alone in our most vulnerable times of need.

Yes, I am going to say, even this is for a reason. There are several things going on here. First, sometimes we established relationships with people based on something we give them and when we want to test the relationship by taking that thing away, we are shocked to find the relationship falls apart. For example, new jobs. You go into the interview, probably promising your devotion, hard work and endless talent. You get the job, then kill yourself for months working hard to prove yourself. Then the steam starts to run out and you realize what you did was over promise your love and over do your expectation setting on the level of work you could sustain long term. You blew your wad, if it were. Then your work quality starts to go down, although it might be more reasonable, it isn’t what you promised originally and your employer is feeling annoyed. You feel like “what the heck, I have been killing myself for this person”. Yeah… and that is what they began to expect! You could apply this to your friendships, your relationships, anything. Did you promise something you couldn’t sustain. Why didn’t you just promise what you could authentically do in the first place and accept that that is enough? You would have been better off to be rejected in the first place, then burn out your energy trying to be somewhere you don’t fit.

Another scenario is that sometimes we are meant to be alone to work through some things. Although right now, all we want in the world is someone to hold us and tell us it will be okay, that person isn’t there for a reason. You are meant to deal with things alone so you face them and work through them in your own energy. Other people will put “fix it” energy in our space in a time we need to just  be with something and so sometimes we need space, even if we don’t want it.

My point is, realize that every scenario is not a punishment to victimize you (yet again) in the world. It is there to teach you about your authentic, powerful self and highlight the beliefs and situations that you give your power to. It is there to help you stand tall in your own space, no matter what. You can use this rejected energy to curl up in a ball and feel sorry for yourself, or you can put that energy into healing your fears and self worth issues that have brought you here in the first place, so that you can go to new places in the future and not replay old patterns.

Insightful Inspiration for the week

Embrace every moment as a teaching, healing moment. Where do you feel rejected? (even in the slightest) What is coming up in this rejection? Do you feel alone? Abused? Used? Under valued? Why is this a bad feeling for you? Is this true? Are you really being abused, used, under valued? If you are, why are you allowing that to happen? How is that serving you? Are you getting false acceptance from this behavior? Maybe you would like to change it but don’t know how. It is okay, just notice it for now and that you want to do something different. Keep that awareness and see how things shift. If you aren’t feeling abused, etc. then why are you letting yourself get worked up about it? Is it keeping you from looking at the real issue for yourself?

Allow every moment, no matter how hard, to be a moment of reflection for yourself. Rather than resist it and try to get out of it, embrace it. Let it teach you. You are already suffering, why not get some value out of it. It is like sitting in a laundry mat waiting for your clothes to dry, might as well do something valuable, like read that book you haven’t gotten around to, while you are there. Why waste a good opportunity to learn.

Happy healing.